"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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how did i get myself in the friend zone?

duke104

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ive known this girl for about 2-3 weeks and i was beginning to wonder if theres something there. i never once called/texted her first...she always initiated the conversation and ive been using some ****y funny stuff on her. today i asked her out to dinner and she said she didnt wanna mess up our friendship. wtf did i do wrong?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BeyondCharm

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Besides possibly waiting too long and spending too much time "friending" here with the texting/phone stuff, you initiated a first date request for dinner when dinner implies heavy-seriousness and is usually avoided as a first date. I recommend coffee / hangout type first dates.
 

TheCzar

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Yea I agree - asking out for dinner is way to serious in this day and age. I would have gone for the coffee or am grabbing drinks somewhere type of move - the casual approach seems to always work for me. Dinner gets her prediction "what if" engine running... That rarely works n your favor.

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duke104

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what sucks is that shes friends with a lot of my friends so ill be seeing her a lot...is there a certain way i should act? should i act like nothings wrong, give her the cold shoulder, etc?
 
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