"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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nvictor

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...to a body builder?

Liquors and beers. I can't wait to have 21. In my home country we don't have any age limitation so I used to drink with friends on friday nights. Here I have to wait a bit, because some of my roommates got caught and are going to be kicked out next semester...

Now that I'm bulking up, what must I be aware of?


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I have strong muscles, I eat properly; thank you all
Have tried Agloco or the 7 dollar method to get some extra money?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Warboss Alex

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Alcohol while in a calorie surplus is the worst thing you can do; empty calories which offer nothing nutritionally, not to mention possible hangovers, possible testosterone reduction, performance hit.. it's really not worth it. Bodybuilders do not drink recreationally, end of.
 

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Obviously don't go out drinking every night. But it doesn't hurt to do so a couple times a month; no more than once a week though.
 

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Alcohol is horrible for a bodybuilder. Beer is the worst. When I go out I usually limit my self to vodkas/tonics. Every shot of vodka has 64 calories while beers pack on 200+ calories.

As for your mental state, massive alcohol consumption over a long period of time can totally change your mental state. Been there, done that. Keep your drinks 3 - 4 at most when you go out.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ha ha, here's what truly sucks.
You're hyper-diligent about doing your weight training, you go through the agony and sweat of watching your body transform into something you are more proud of each day...

and sometimes you want to go out and celebrate your wonderful boost in self-esteem, and in our culture, that means alcohol is involved more often than not.

WA was right on about the pitfalls of booze - buried in that list was testosterone reduction! Think about that man, testosterone reduction!

Bottom line is, don't abuse the stuff, use it sparingly, and even when you do, try to avoid drinking the point where you have a terrible hangover the next day. That is seriously bodily damage right there.
 

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if you drink make sure there are naked girls around you so it is at least somewhat worth it. if the girls are not getting naked, stop drinking quickly!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fred Da Head

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The biggest problem about alcohol is, generally, it's catabolic effects. Also, beer has a slightly womanizing (I can't think of the proper word) effect; it's bad for your male hormones (mainly test) and "good" for your female hormones (mainly estrogen) which means that drinking beer not only destroys what you've done, it also inhibits further progress.

Drinking occasionally isn't too bad, especially if you're only "bodybuilding" to look good (in which case it's not really bodybuilding, is it?), but if you're competing, you really ought to know better.
 

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why do people always look down on people wh arent bodybuilding competively. Isnt is allowed to not enter contests, and still be serious about your progress?
 

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Hockey Playa said:
why do people always look down on people wh arent bodybuilding competively. Isnt is allowed to not enter contests, and still be serious about your progress?
It's just that most people who aren't competing but say "I'm a bodybuilder" don't have nearly the same kind of body (and the same kind of goals, dedication, means, etc) as those who are competing.

I don't look down on anyone who's not competing--I'm not competing, either. I think it's great that people are working out and taking care of their bodies. It's just that some people seem to think it sounds "cool" to say "I'm a bodybuilder" when their goals, training, and dedication isn't that of a competitive bodybuilder.
 

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I hear a lot of diet pop = might as well drink a little regular.. but that's all i know..someone back me up?

Drinking is not baaaad if you want to get laaaaaaid. But you should also knoooooow how to get laid without alcohooooool.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TyTe`EyEs

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Oxide said:
Drinking is not baaaad if you want to get laaaaaaid. But you should also knoooooow how to get laid without alcohooooool.
Well put. We have always seemed to agree on this topic. Then again, I doubt either of us is planning on becoming a pro bodybuilder.
 

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Oxide said:
if you drink make sure there are naked girls around you so it is at least somewhat worth it. if the girls are not getting naked, stop drinking quickly!
:crackup:
 

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Oxide said:
I hear a lot of diet pop = might as well drink a little regular.. but that's all i know..someone back me up?
No, that's not true. Most of the artificial sweeteners used in those diet drinks do not get digested. So only if you drank gallons of diet soda, then you might as well drink a little regular, because high doses of those articial sugars are unhealthy long term.
 

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Fred Da Head said:
It's just that some people seem to think it sounds "cool" to say "I'm a bodybuilder" when their goals, training, and dedication isn't that of a competitive bodybuilder.

If I play hockey and say "i'm a hockey player" it doesn't imply that i'm in the NHL.
 

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mrRuckus said:
If I play hockey and say "i'm a hockey player" it doesn't imply that i'm in the NHL.
It does mean, however, that you play in some type of league. At least where I come from.

Saying "I'm a bodybuilder" is the same--you might not be going to Mr. Olympia or the Arnold Classic every year, but it implies that you compete in local bodybuilding competitions, at least.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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