"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How come the hottest girls have the issues?

JaguarMike

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Almost everyone on this board has met a woman who was smoking hot (think hb9-10) who was a seriously mean person, and would onyl date the meanest man in the room who would treat her like garbage. I'm not talking about a dj, i'm talking about a meanspirited jerk. I watched my friend's girls gone wild dvd and most of the girls on that show that were being interviewed all said something similar, "my boyfriends going to get mad if I do this, how long from now is this dvd coming out" or "my boyfriends going to be so pissed!" or "I wonder if my boyfriend will see this.... but I can't do that, he will get mad at me!" Now, that might have been a rehearsed line by the producers to make guys think they're getting the forbiden fruit, but I'm not sure. On top of that, these girls were all incredibly hot, early 20's, and all talked about how their boyfriends say they need to get bigger tits, work out, or lose weight. 9 out of 10 of these girls were incredible, and they still had boyfriends telling them they aren't. Girls at my school are very much the same way, the hottest going for the biggest jackass on campus. Luckily a lot of girls I see a lot are still hot and sane, but it seems like the most hip, and hottest have problems.

My question is this- how come most hot girls in college have such issues. Is it just that the caliber of girl auditioning for this video? Is it because they get hammered down by losers asking them out all the time, only to get with the man who is pissed off as well? What is it. Please respond.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jaun_Don

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I think it might be a social status thing, my ex room mate (horrible ****ing slore) only dated Men that have money and will take her to plays and concerts and buy her things.

Plus I have seen that slore hang around guys that give her drugs and **** and are sociable with all the pretentious ******* people they hang out with going to all the 'cool' parties to be seen.

It's really sad and it has to be self esteem issues as well.
 

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Yeah I totally agree with you. I think a big part of it is self-esteem. The hot girls who are blending in at the "pinacle of college social life" like the snowbunnies being supplied drugs by the *******s is so annoying on my campus. Too bad these girls are so hot.
 

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If I were you I would stop caring about why all the hot girls have issues. Personally, I don't think hot girls have any more/less issues than anybody else in the world. You aren't going to change the world so why care about a problem you can't fix. i.e. why do you care enough to ask all those questions? When and if you answer them... what do you think that will do for you?
 

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Originally posted by Cheiradawg
If I were you I would stop caring about why all the hot girls have issues. Personally, I don't think hot girls have any more/less issues than anybody else in the world. You aren't going to change the world so why care about a problem you can't fix. i.e. why do you care enough to ask all those questions? When and if you answer them... what do you think that will do for you?
good question but it wasn't like the dude was writing a thesis on the subject or anything, he only wanted to seek some answers to the mystery that is the female mind (some call it the Black Hole):crackup:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It really depends on their core beliefs which stem from their upbringing. If the girl has good parents, and her IQ is over 95, then she's in good shape.

If she has bad parents and not that intelligent, she won't be able to fix her problems herself and will become used and abused.

If she has bad parents and a shred of intelligence, there may be some hope.
 

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In defense of hot women. They don't want a man that's pissed off. They want a "real man", one that's not afraid of knocking them off their pedestal. They get hit on almost continuously anytime they are in a social setting. 99% of these guys are pathetic, needy chumps, so the hottest babes put on the b*tch shield and play mean. Learn the game and these are the easiest chicks to pick up because of their insecurities.

I have a friend with benefits that's an HB9.5. She goes on several dates each week with "nice guys". These guys buy her gifts, take her to expensive restaurants, etc. and tell her how beatiful she is. She has no sexual interest in these guys, so she comes to me for the "benefits" and tells me how pathetic men are. I compliment her on things like her intelligence and creativity. As far as her looks, I'm always telling her what she needs to do to look fairly atttractive:

Her: Do you like my new hairstyle?
Me: Don't worry, it'll grow back.

Her: Does this dress look good?
Me: It would if you gained 20 lb. to have an ass to fill it out.
 

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Does this girl have a big Tattoo draped across her lower back?
 
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