"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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how cana guy know if he is attractive?

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its not easy is it?

I never thought I was and was rather introverted and uninterested so never try with women.

Then getting older thought better do something.

I went onholidays and into clubs etc and found girls literally tring to snog/kiss me.Even had handjobs, *******s and some sex. Then through work and meeting women ive even had to play it cool and keep my distance as I meet some who seemed keen on me but I was not interested in at all.

One girl even said she usually doesn't do this but slept with me. As if I were something special.

Im a skinny guy but like jonny depp or a young Di caprio...pretty boy/slim body....Though its not bad don't think all women want muscleheads.,
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Attraction for women is much more complex than it is for men, especially sexual attraction.

For example, if you were about to fvck a super model, and then she told you that she was a radical feminist, would that destroy your sexual attraction for her? Hell, no!

By contract, if you then told that same feminist super model that you thought feminism was stupid, is she still going to want to fvck you? Probably not. Women tie their physical attraction to their idea of who you are as a person. That doesn't mean it isn't still shallow and vain; it's just more multi-faceted.
 

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Usually the broad will tell you.
 

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If you want to know if your attractive/good looking/hot etc... Just think about your past interactions with girls. have you had girls tell you that your attractive? Have groups of women turn their heads when you walked by? Do you catch women staring at you? etc. Have you been able to snag the sexiest girl in the room/bar? etc.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yes to the above but I still never feel attractive myself..im skinnier than most guys, my skin is bad at times, now my hair Is thinning, but I always had a pretty face and good sense of style in clothing. good eyes, lips, nose etc, very gq pretty boy model...but not manly at all nor masculine...I guess I just didn't even care as I wasn't interested In dating or sex and still most often aren't ironically haha....so I never went out much.

the other week I was working and this Italian type women early 20s late teens, sorta headed to bathroom In café and stared at me as she walked passed, then she walked back up the hall from the toilet towards me,,,and I was like ye? shes like hi do u know where the toilet is? I just pointed to where she just came from and she giggled and went oh yeh so it is then walked back to toilet.

When she came out of toilet, she stared at me again then when she went up the stair case she turned her head back to look at me and smiled lol.

so I guess things like that don't happen to the average guy..nonetheless im pretty boring I wouldn't say no to a bj but overall I couldn't care to much haha.
 

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I went onholidays and into clubs etc and found girls literally tring to snog/kiss me.Even had handjobs, *******s and some sex.
This is what makes me doubt when people talk about women being attracted to confidence. Here we have a guy who clearly doesn't know what he thinks of himself, but he goes into a club and the girls are all over him. I'm not saying that confidence is NOT attractive, but clearly there is a lot more to it than that. Like BibleBelt pointed out, the way attraction works for women can be very complex. It can't all be boiled down to simple formulas.
 

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This is what makes me doubt when people talk about women being attracted to confidence. Here we have a guy who clearly doesn't know what he thinks of himself, but he goes into a club and the girls are all over him. I'm not saying that confidence is NOT attractive, but clearly there is a lot more to it than that. Like BibleBelt pointed out, the way attraction works for women can be very complex. It can't all be boiled down to simple formulas.
That's if you believe a word the now banned boy typed.

Attraction is indeed various and complicated.
 
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Unfortunate that the guy came off lying.. Never lie when you're seeking advice. Be honest. It's the key to receiving.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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