How can you tell if a girl is pulling a powermove or not?

[Hullothere]

I'm 99% sure i have my GF hung up on me. She keeps asking when im going to propose.. sending me links to rings and all that crap. In addition she ALWAYS wants to be around me and gets furious when im not around. We had a huge fight this last weekend because i saw this unrecognized number in her phone sunday that was dialed back at 130am (she received a call from it at 10pm). I called it and it was a guys voice.. apparently her girlfriend's phone died (i found this out after the fact) and she used the guys phone to call my gf. I blew up at my gf and then later did a d'oh moment when i heard a voicemail at 10pm from the missed call saying it was her gf and her phone died.

So now Monday after the huge fight on sunday where she called her parents and they came over and it was just a huge freaking mess. She says monday that there is "no trust" in the relationship and even though she loves me we cannot be together. so im like "wtf you are going to just give up that easy? After all that crap you have been saying.. ok.. thats fine just do me a favor and not contact me anymore".

So I havent contacted her at all.. since this last Monday. I checked my mail this morning and she sent me an email saying "lack of financial responsibility. i have no clue how I'm going to pay for this when my CC bill comes. Anyway, I hope you are doing better than me". Thats all the email said and it had a picture of 6 expensive ass things she just bought onto her credit card totaling 2700. I thought it was retarded but just deleted it. Even if I was with her I wouldnt respond to something like that.

So for now im just doing the no contact thing, looking forward to the weekend and getting out. Im just wondering if you guys think this is truly over or she is pulling a powerplay? There are a couple girls I could see but if I follow through with that this weekend, word will get back to her and I may have sealed the coffin that way. dunno...

Oh yah and on her facebook she still has "in a relationship" and all our pics. hrm..

 

[Rhoto]

Have you considered - breaking up? Like a clean, complete, irreversible independence. Or do you enjoy the drama?

Simply from a financial point of you, she has demonstrated her inability to restrain herself. Do you want to be held accountable for her debts and obligations?

 

[Hullothere]

Have you considered - breaking up? Or do you enjoy the drama?

i cant answer if the drama is worth it. I do care about her and like her. I dunno.. about the facebook thing. Maybe shes not changing it because all of her work friends are on it and she would be embarassed. I'm 26 and dont plan on marrying till 30 at the earliest but shes almost 27 now. I think shes feeling the pressure to be hitched since everyone at her work is already. this could be a big red flag? hehe

 

[DonGorgon]

Do not marry this woman or any other one..

 

[WC2]

I don't think there's really any way to know what's going on.

Either way, she's been pushed by either you or her peers to break things off with you and she hasn't really cared to contact you in a week, besides the fact that she's in financial turmoil.

No offense, but your girl sounds like a greedy b!tch. If I ever had a girl sending me pictures of rings and such, I'd tell her to hit the road. I have no problem with a girl showing she loves me and wants more from me, but wanting a ring from me is not the way to show it.

The fact that she sent you an email about her financial concerns just shows her disrespect for you. Even if she's just trying to get your attention, she picked a poor topic to write her first email to you in a week.

If some chick I was with broke it off with me, she better be sending me emails begging for my ass back or I'm moving on (either way I probably would).

You may have blown up on her which was a mistake on your part. However, grudges can't last forever. If she has shown no signs of positivity then you don't need her in your life.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Ok, so you're dating an addicted shopper, who is in debt, financially irresponsible, and likes drama, and will create it if it not there. Hmm. And you are here worrying about a powermove/power strugge. Sounds like you got a winner, she's a keeper, Bro.

 

[vachir]

Do not marry this woman or any other one..

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[Hullothere]

Well i think she was being sarcastic about being financially irresponsible. She makes a ****load of money so she can afford it. Regardless I agree that it was a stupid ass email to send to me. I dont see the point? I see what many of you guys are saying and appreciate the input.

 

[Captain]

So I havent contacted her at all.. since this last Monday. I checked my mail this morning and she sent me an email saying "lack of financial responsibility. i have no clue how I'm going to pay for this when my CC bill comes. Anyway, I hope you are doing better than me". Thats all the email said and it had a picture of 6 expensive ass things she just bought onto her credit card totaling 2700. I thought it was retarded but just deleted it. Even if I was with her I wouldnt respond to something like that.

Just think who'd be paying for them if you were married.

 

[3countriesPlan]

She is pulling a powermove in that she thinks you need her more than she needs you. Here is what you do: tell yourself the relationship is over and do not make ANY effort to grovel and slink back into her arms. Go out have some fun and meet new people. She will most certainly come back to you if she actually really likes you alot, but when she tries to come back you should either tell her to fvck off or make her work hard to get back in your good graces.