"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How can you tell if a girl digs you?

Doe Boii

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How can you tell when a girl is feeling you? I read that most of the time, the girl you are attracted to, is probably attracted to you to and that there are subtle signs just as with guys. I know when i'm attracted to a girl I stare at her when she's not looking, then look away when she does (Should I do this?). So what are women's signals? How should I talk to a girl that does dig me? Now i'm NOT ugly, most girls tell me I'm "Cute" or look good even a couple "fine's". I just really don't know how to talk to girls, and kinda get a little intimidated around them, how do i handle that? sorry for all the questions I just need HELP.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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GaryUranga

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Read the bible..

and.. stop looking away when girls catch you lookng at them, its weak, also, girl signs are pretty obvious, they play with their hair, act nervous, stare at you, try to talk to you.. etc
 

Doe Boii

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GaryUranga said:
Read the bible..

and.. stop looking away when girls catch you lookng at them, its weak, also, girl signs are pretty obvious, they play with their hair, act nervous, stare at you, try to talk to you.. etc
So what do I do when they catch me looking at them? Should I just smile and wave or something or what?
 

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Doe Boii said:
How can you tell when a girl is feeling you?
It varies from girl to girl because some are more introverted than others, but in general, smiling a lot, laughing at everything you say (even if it's not really that funny), being really interested in what you have to say, looking at you even when you're not talking, finding excuses to play with your hair, touching your hands, teasing, twirling their hair, finding ways to stand/sit close to you...it's really not that hard to figure out.

Doe Boii said:
I just really don't know how to talk to girls, and kinda get a little intimidated around them, how do i handle that?
Talk to a girl you like just how you'd talk to one of your friends. NEVER SCRIPT WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO SAY, girls can detect this immediately. Be good-natured, have a good sense of humor, and don't take yourself too seriously. Be able to laugh at yourself and herself. For God's sake, just TALK. I know it must sound pretty daunting, but trust me, it's just a conversation! The more you talk to a girl, the more comfortable you'll get with each other and conversation will just happen. If you meet a girl and the conversation is really stilted, then just accept that she's not your type and move on.

Good luck
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Willspearec

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Well what if a girl likes you, but is afraid to let you know? But she looks at you?Then what? Do you make a move then?
Cuz for all the times that a girl has liked me, she has never twirled her hair. It seems to me that girls try to make it just as subtle as possible just like guys do.
 
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