Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How can you open somebody up?

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Yesterday I asked a girl if she wanted to hang out durning February break, after having talked with her the previous afternoon for 30 or so minutes.
She said "I'm gonna be visiting my sister for the whole vacation." I was like "Oh, ok" then left. I realize that this was a bad move on my part for specifying vacation and not going any further to ask for a phone number.

She's pretty shy, but today it was almost like shes ignoring me.
She gives basically one-word responses and barely broke a space when I smiled at her.

How do I open her up without being seen as needy or annoying?
As I mentioned, we've talked for almost 30 minutes straight before, and she smiled way bigger during that conversation.
I don't know how I can get back to having good rapport like that with this girl.

I just wanna get this girl's number.

How can I get past the shyness and interact more with her so I can ask her to hang out?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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did u try the old............hey when are we going to hang out line yet?

if u want something just ask...........first. If they resist, then persuade her by
negotiating tactics
 

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Oh man...I'm just afraid of persuing girls cause I've been burned in the past being called a creep or a stalker by insecure little bytches.

If she isn't uninterested in me then shes just extremely quiet/shy though.
In math class today, I told her to listen to my ipod on one of my headphones and she only listened for like two seconds (exactly) and took them out.
I was like "Are you sure you don't wanna listen?" and she said "No I'm fine."

It was one of her favorite songs, and during the first second of the song I saw a very very very slight smile from her, even though she wasn't looking at me.

Should I have pushed her? Because basically I like to respect what people say in case they percieve me as abusing or some negative feeling.
Shyt man...Now I feel like I should been like "Omg put that back this is like your favorite song!"

Today is strike 2, if I talk to her again and fail I'm nexting even if she LJBFs me, cause I'm pretty pissed at myself.

Still theres the matter of breaking through to a shy girl. How do you do it?
 

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bro,

she's given you two signs that she isn't interested. Has she given you ANY indications that she is interested?

You had a cool conversation and that is awesome, but you gotta realize that sometimes people just aren't interested.

that last thing with the earphones is a pretty obvious sign that she is not into you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I only wanna learn how to break through her shyness again man.
I just want to have ONE good conversation with her, so I can ask for her number at an acceptable moment and know whether I'm rejected or not.

I'm in the situation because I haven't been persistant enough and I've left things unfinished.

I gotta accomplish this and move on.
 

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Ok I've decided to lay way back until vacation is over... Not gonna stress about this lady at all, but I am gonna say hi to her because completely ignoring somebody is just not cool.

Thank you to the people who posted.
However, I think there is some kind of answer out there that I haven't been given because the knowledge could be uncommon to most people on this site.

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