"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How can you not drop spinning plates if you don't have a car?

Nexus Polaris

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I crashed my car on New Year's over some seriously AFC sh!t. So now I'm having to hitch rides with my friends everywhere I go. Which is fine if I'm just going out or talking to random new people. But it makes setting follow up dates hard as hell.

How do I keep from losing spinning plates due to lack of transportation?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Nexus Polaris

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How?

I know it's possible because the most suave guy I know who used to be the door guy at the bar I frequent never had a car, and he got hotties to pick his ass up and drop him off all the time.
 

Mind_Body_Soul

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When you go out with you friends (and they drive) you get the girl's #s.

When you call them you establish a bit of rapport and then ask for the date.

Tell them the truth (that you were in an accident) and that they have to pick you up or get your buddy to give you a ride to meet up with the girl and get her to bring you back.
 

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Mind_Body_Soul said:
Tell them the truth (that you were in an accident) and that they have to pick you up or get your buddy to give you a ride to meet up with the girl and get her to bring you back.
I agree. But when you tell them you had an accident make sure to mention that it "wasn't your fault". Also remember that this excuse has its time limit so you best find a car after a couple of months. I remember I had my car stolen and I was supposed to have my first date with this chick and when I told her about it the first thing she asked was whether she can come and pick me up with her car to our first date (it also shows high interest if they offer to pick you up without you asking so use that to your advantage)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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