"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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how can you keep a posititve attitude

*RHCP*

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For about the past week ive had a really positive attiude and it made heaps of difference in the amount of stuff I achieved each day. I overcame more fears, had better conversations and also people seemed to notice the difference. Now I need to stay like this and not go back to being negative. Right now I do some meditation, and just try to keep everything moving and not waiting for things to happen. This is probably a really dumb place to ask for advice about this, but are there any other ways to keep a good attitude?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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you gotta make a internal schedule and stick by it...like being able to do 80 pushups by whenever, run 10km, do your homework, wake up at 7. etc

so you have something to turn to, and won't depend on external circumstances to be happy.
 

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Train your body first and then train your mind. Start working-out regularly and lean towards over-training rather than under-training /but/ use common sense and be careful.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Damian

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Keep a constant self-observant and self-critical perspective on life. Your actions, no matter whether you succeed or fail, are all learning experiences. Get out and interact with people. Figure out what you're doing right and identify with those traits, strengthen them. Find out where your faults are and work to improve on them. Don't wallow in frustration and remorse if you make a mistake, take the opportunity to learn from it. If you take that kind of view on your life, you will inevitably have a brighter outlook and be much more satisfied with your own being.

-Damian
 
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