For about the past week ive had a really positive attiude and it made heaps of difference in the amount of stuff I achieved each day. I overcame more fears, had better conversations and also people seemed to notice the difference. Now I need to stay like this and not go back to being negative. Right now I do some meditation, and just try to keep everything moving and not waiting for things to happen. This is probably a really dumb place to ask for advice about this, but are there any other ways to keep a good attitude?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how can you keep a posititve attitude
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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you gotta make a internal schedule and stick by it...like being able to do 80 pushups by whenever, run 10km, do your homework, wake up at 7. etc
so you have something to turn to, and won't depend on external circumstances to be happy.
so you have something to turn to, and won't depend on external circumstances to be happy.
GuitarOnFire
Senior Don Juan
Train your body first and then train your mind. Start working-out regularly and lean towards over-training rather than under-training /but/ use common sense and be careful.
dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
shot of heroin gets me through the day...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Damian
Senior Don Juan
Keep a constant self-observant and self-critical perspective on life. Your actions, no matter whether you succeed or fail, are all learning experiences. Get out and interact with people. Figure out what you're doing right and identify with those traits, strengthen them. Find out where your faults are and work to improve on them. Don't wallow in frustration and remorse if you make a mistake, take the opportunity to learn from it. If you take that kind of view on your life, you will inevitably have a brighter outlook and be much more satisfied with your own being.
-Damian
-Damian
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Force yourself to SMILE for at least 5 minutes straight!
