"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how can u tell if the girl is a freeloader or not

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lets say ur going out with a girl lets say so far u been paying for everything-dates-movies, eating out..etc.....waht not, how do u now if this gurl is into u and not just a moocher-freeloader.i mean usually the guy pays for the first few dates and i guess depending on if the girl has a job or old fashioned or not-she chips in her part or we both go mutual-u pay for dinner and i pay for movie-what not.
but in the first few dates the guy pays -so how does one now if the girls a free loader or not-how can u tell-shes into ya or just the freebies. i ain't rich-college student-got mimunum wage job-every dollar i have is like important to me. i don't really want to spend unless i really have to.
coffee dates are great but how many girls are goin meet up with ya just for coffee-and take their time off to do it. also i have no car -so its meet ya there
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I try not to spend any money on any dates if i can help it. If i do i spend very little on a girl or they do get the freeloader lifestyle built in. You can buy a girl something every day and she will never appreicate it or you can do it on the special occassion and she will.
 
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I've you've been paying for dates al the time, one time after dinner or where ever you're doing when the check comes reach for your wallet look in and say "Jeeze I forgot i had to pay off my bookie (or something) do you mind getting this one (or ask to split)"

If she rolls her eyes and says she'll get it, time to curb her
If she says but I NEVER carry money on dates...well i guess you know where that goes.
If she's chipper and says sure bust the cash then it's all good
If she's chipper says no problem and whipps out daddy's platinum card then you should marry her:D
 
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