"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How can I turn my life around?
- Thread starter bud_2005
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
If it is just a period of uncertainty or of having the blues sit down and decide what you want out of life or at the least some major goals that you would like to accomplish in the next 6-12 months. Then work each day towards accomplishing them and as you do so you will feel better about yourself.
Sit down write your goals down and stick to it. Getting a mentor or friend who has the same issues to fix is helpful for moral support. After a month if you're still not going anywhere do yourself a favor and enter rehab. Obviously you aren't capable of changing yourself and need external help.bud_2005 said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Find less detrimental vices to replace them.bud_2005 said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
only drink warm beer.bud_2005 said:
only chew (nicotine) gum.
only watch gay porn.
OR
you could just limit yourself to engaging in those addictions say two nights a week. the other five nights you should take up new hobbies, like jogging.
tj
Guest
I have tried it all, sex, drugs, etc. And here I am typing away on the internet.
But at least Ku won the orange bowl and is looking pretty good from a basketball standpoint. That is something to look forward to.
Good luck I guess and keep us posted.
PrinceBeavis
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It's all about replacing one habit with another, it takes time, and it's not easy, but it's possible.
bbestar
Banned
why not used the same concept for a new start on Life
Seven days of complete shut off
1. shut off alcohol by throwing away all alcohol
2. shut off chewing tobacco by burning all tobacco
3. shut off porn by deleting all porn, unplug your monitor, and everything
and put your computer in attic
option 4. shut off TV, newspaper and magazines.
Now in its place, Live Life you were meant to Live.
The Life God wanted you to Live, an abundant Life.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Roly
Senior Don Juan
Ask yourself these questions:
What do I truely want to feel emotionally?
What is my life purpose? And are these addictions helping me achieve them?
Are my current thoughts about myself making me feel good?
Am I simply living in the present moment?