"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How can i stop reading this site and actually do something?????????

Locster

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I need help taking action, I've been reading this site for about a year but have not done anything to obtain girls or a social life. I have been stuck in a routine for years now and i dont know how to get out of it. What are ways to motivate yourself into taking action???????
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The only way you will ever motivate yourself to make radical change in the way you think is through internal motivation. You need to reinforce your new lifestyle with internal satisfaction in all things that you do in attempt to improve yourself. You may be thinking that external motivators will drive you (such as success in the field), however, these are only temporary motivators. They simply satisfy a need and fail to continue to motivate you. You need to find satisfaction within yourself or you'll never experience genuine motivation. You also need to write down a plan of attack along with goals you would like to accomplish. These goals and ideas will take root in your subconscious and will likely influence your actions without you having to even make a constant effort to work toward your goals.
 

flippinfreak

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Kick your own ass, and say "I'm not scared, I'm not a wussy, I'm not a loser" EVERYTIME before you sarge. Right up until you actually believe what you are saying.

How do you motivate yourself?

PUSH yourself, inspire yourself from within to at least TRY!

Affectual motivation is the most primitive AND effective way to motivate yourself. Do a few searches on google for it, (if you still want to read), and just think of how it is going to fit into a goal...

You have made a realistic goal haven't you?

You've got to break from safety, and let your emotions chase you along, rest for a while, and get back to running from your emotions. Stay one step ahead of them, PLAN to have the emotions...

That's generic speak, If I could read your mind I'd help you out...
 

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Wake up in the morning and focus on what you want that day. Just keep it on your mind. Then the advice from here will start flowing in and you'll realize when you miss oppurtunities. Then you'll start to take advantage of those oppurtunties, soon you'll be going strong. It all starts with baby steps though, change your attitude.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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You dont HAVE TO start aproaching girls and basicly makeing oppertunitys for yourself. I do not tend to do this, i have done so maybe half a dozen times. What is important is that you implement it in to your scoial life. When you happen to meet a new girl use it, when you meet a freind of a freind you use it, when you meet freinds you use it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Doggystyle

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Stop masturbating and looking at porn untill you start approaching, that will motivate you to get you ass in gear. Even better start lifting weights to get you testosterone even higher therefore increasing your sex drive. Nothing motivates you more than having a high sex drive, well apart from having a gun up your ass!
 

Distant Light

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The best way to do it is to realize what your life could be if you learnt this. In my case I would have seen myself going all over in different clubs and just gaming all the hb9s in high heels and sexy ass skirts. Sitting on my lap, fuvking them in the bathrooms. Having over 5 girlfriends and being bought sh!t, cooked food, and my whole sex life just complete. Have them taking me to other countries where we end up having wild sex in that country. You get the drift.

then realize only way to get it is to practice, and realize how much fun it would be going up to girls just talking to them, its a win win situation you crash and burn and analyze all the good stuff you did in the approach and what you did wrong. You rather never approach or approach, then makeout or even just have her sit on your lap and then reject she rejects you. I know I'd rather the second one. You basically have nothing to lose also realize that you can die whenever and when your old in a nursing home you would be thinking about all the missed chances that you had, or how you wish you had learnt this now because you only ****ed 4 girls in your life and got married to a hb6 who didn't even have good pusvy.

So think about it and realize just do it out of fun and learning.
 

Phat

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Dude Start Small . Then just work your way up. You will gradually get use to everything . When your 30 or w/e ur gonna regret all this. So start now and dont waiste anymore time!
 

Locster

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Thanks for all the advice, the next coming weeks I am going to try to make as many new friends as possible.
 
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