"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How can I look older?

AlmostThere!

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I'm twenty-five but people think I'm 18 - 21 years old. I don't like growing my facial hair because only my mustache, chin hair, and side burns grow. I'm 5'10'' and 143lbs. Sometimes I think that my weight makes me look younger. I just want to know how can I look older? Anybody that talks to me for more than 5 minutes knows I'm much older than 18. But it's the initial impression people (girls) get that I think weakens my game.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Go through hard times.

But for real, why? Since I was in high school people thought I was older than I really was. By their guess, I came in as a senior, graduated college, and was a substitute teacher my last year of high school. I say instead of changing it, lift weights and let it work for you.
 

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start smoking crack, you'll look older in no time.
 

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I guess with the funny responses, there's nothing I can do to look older.
 

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Alcohol degrades the body. Especially the face. A few months of that and you'll look at least a decade older.

You can also go tanning religiously. You can have that leathery look you're wanting.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Squats and milk.
 

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What about the way you dress? You can wear more sophisticated clothes to look older.
 

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I wore a suit and tie for a job when i was 19. I could drink in most bars.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ok, I also don't see why you're so eager to look older. I mean, by the time you're 35 you look 30, good deal huh? That's way better than somebody here who says they "want to look younger"
I know it never affected my game. I'm 23 and I look 23, but I always hit on older girls 25-28 for my own reasons and never have a problem.
 

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Xx1 said:
Ok, I also don't see why you're so eager to look older. I mean, by the time you're 35 you look 30, good deal huh? That's way better than somebody here who says they "want to look younger"
I know it never affected my game. I'm 23 and I look 23, but I always hit on older girls 25-28 for my own reasons and never have a problem.
It feels like girls don't take me seriously. I have this idea in my mind that girls want a "manly" man.
 

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AlmostThere! said:
It feels like girls don't take me seriously. I have this idea in my mind that girls want a "manly" man.
You can make it up in a lot of other ways. Body build, money, style, etc.
Why would I not have a problem hitting on older girls while you feel uncomfortable even though you're not younger?

In college, at the age of 19 I was driving more expensive cars than people in their 40's who've been working years and years. I set the standard as to what I'm looking for in women and that's why I was going for older ones as opposed to broke ass girls around my age who still depended on daddy and mommy's money pay tuition who just wanted me to brag to their friends as if I was just a commodity. However, the older ones saw my independence and my ability to act and be a man.

Grow facial hair is the easiest fix (I know you said you didn't like to) but if you're eager to look older, than you'll find a facial style that matches your personality. I remember when I was under 21 and wanted to go to the club on weekends, I could never get in without ID, but if I just grew my hair for a week or two and then fixed it up, I'd have a better chance of getting in.
 

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I'm gonna try the GOMAD diet for 30 days. I'm 142 pounds right now. I'll report back bin one month.
 

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AlmostThere! said:
I'm gonna try the GOMAD diet for 30 days. I'm 142 pounds right now. I'll report back bin one month.
It just sounds like you wanted somebody to tell you to gain weight... Is that why you mentioned your weight in your question? Kinda like you knew the answer before asking the question but you wanted validation. :eek:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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AlmostThere! said:
I'm gonna try the GOMAD diet for 30 days. I'm 142 pounds right now. I'll report back bin one month.
You should add Lactase to the milk, or get lactose-free milk.
 

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AlmostThere! said:
I'm gonna try the GOMAD diet for 30 days. I'm 142 pounds right now. I'll report back bin one month.
Ok, just make sure you are either doing Rippetoe's starting strength routine, or Stronglifts 5x5, otherwise all that milk will become fat, and you'll just look young and fat.
Large diet without weightlifting = Fat guy.
Large diet with Weightlifting = Manly man.
 
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