"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How can I improve my conversation with her?

Brighty

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I know this girl and I want to move on to something a little more intimate, but I'm having problems talking to her. Just thinking about saying 'oh how was your day' and '<she talks about a subject> oh, do you like your 'something about the subject'", I dunno, it all just seems a little too routine, bland, and generic. Do you guys feel the same way? What are some good conversation openers to get discussion going, but not a conversation you'd have with your friends.

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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hereoftheday90

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hey, your my age! (well not yet, but in a few short months) i'm not an expert but what you mentioned is what i normally say to get the ball rolling then i just feed off of what she says. i found that has helped me a lot because it takes the pressure off as you are talking about what she wants. but i repeat if she wants to talk about guys she likes or anything like that, it's best avoided or try to change the topic.
 

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Feed her emotions. Say stupid things. Just get her to talk. That's what women your age do anyway. She'll just react in obtuse ways to what you've said and then go and tell all her girlfriends about it. If you can feed her gossip network with some really juicy stuff, you'll be in there my friend.
 

penkitten

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i think there are other things besides gossip that can be things to talk about.
do you watch the news?
get into politics at all?
what are you studing, and is it interesting?
are you into music? if so, what bands?
are you into sports?


talk to her about something real and see if she flakes.
 
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