"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How can I improve my conversation with her?

Brighty

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I know this girl and I want to move on to something a little more intimate, but I'm having problems talking to her. Just thinking about saying 'oh how was your day' and '<she talks about a subject> oh, do you like your 'something about the subject'", I dunno, it all just seems a little too routine, bland, and generic. Do you guys feel the same way? What are some good conversation openers to get discussion going, but not a conversation you'd have with your friends.

Thanks guys
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hereoftheday90

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hey, your my age! (well not yet, but in a few short months) i'm not an expert but what you mentioned is what i normally say to get the ball rolling then i just feed off of what she says. i found that has helped me a lot because it takes the pressure off as you are talking about what she wants. but i repeat if she wants to talk about guys she likes or anything like that, it's best avoided or try to change the topic.
 

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Feed her emotions. Say stupid things. Just get her to talk. That's what women your age do anyway. She'll just react in obtuse ways to what you've said and then go and tell all her girlfriends about it. If you can feed her gossip network with some really juicy stuff, you'll be in there my friend.
 

penkitten

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i think there are other things besides gossip that can be things to talk about.
do you watch the news?
get into politics at all?
what are you studing, and is it interesting?
are you into music? if so, what bands?
are you into sports?


talk to her about something real and see if she flakes.
 
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