"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How can I get rid of her ex?
- Thread starter CASON
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This happens WAY too much. He's always orbiting about. I was seeing one girl recently and he'd be calling her after midnight when she was with me. And she dumped him.
I've lost count of how many women i've met stuck somehow on their exes. "But i've known him so long." Bah. They don't care that it ruins their new relationships.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
you can not rid him from her life.
what you can do is make a stand and demand that she pick one of you, however, it could backfire big time when she either chooses him or she says she chooses you and then leaves you for him anyways.
he's not just some ex that happens to be an ex since before you knew her.
not at all .
he is the good man that talked her into going back to school, whom she began "cheating" on when she was at work flirting with you.
he is the good man who knew when it was time to break up with her, back off and let her take a new path (because he wasn't going to walk down that path with her toting your butt around too.)
now here's the important part:
no matter what she says the reason for writing to him is... she MISSES him. (that is what your quote said) however, she didn't go into details.
she misses him in her life, she misses the way he makes her feel, she misses his voice, she misses his smell, she misses him.
and as she yearns to get him back into her life, she will do whatever she can. if he seems to respond to it in the same manner, she will slowly start letting go of what she has with you until it is over.
we all know where you are coming from. you have invested your time and your heart into a love with her only to have it ripped out underneath you.
you can glance at her outbox or put a keylogger on the computer but you already know what is happening.
he isn't the a$$hole jerk ex that needs people sent over to beat him up.
you have to choose other ways to deal with this than violence.
you have to choose to do one of the following:
1. demand she chose one of you and be willing to walk away if it is not you and/or be ready for her to later change her mind
2. be willing to make the choice for her and walk away on your own
3. just keep quiet about it and take whatever she gives you and be a doormat if nothing else.
now what will you chose?
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
I'm going to be very blunt here...
:cuss: THE EX-BOYFRIEND WILL NOT GO AWAY BECAUSE SHE WANTS HIM THERE!:cuss:
Get it through your head! Write it down 100 times! Tape a note to your bathroom mirror!
Dump this girl! Cut her out of your life & find someone else who doesn't still have BF issues!
Byezbozhniy
Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.