How can I get out of the Friend zone?

[Muppet]

Been friends with a really great girl for 2 years, we went out for 2 months and both were really really happy, she even said she had been waiting for me to make the move for a long ass time. Well recently she said she just doesnt have the feelings for me anymore. I think mostly because I was "too nice" Always there, called her prolly way to much, bought her stuff. Pretty much just way too nice.

Well she still wants to be friends and says she feels really protected when she is with me and comfy, still wants to hug/kiss or atleast last time we talked she did. Currently we are taking a bit of a break and I have been reading tons of info on this site to try and get out of being a AFC.

I went out and found some old friends and am going out with them now and then, trying to show here I have more of a life now. Used to sit on my ass most times and play games. I work PT and am salary so only really in the office like 10 hours a week. WAY to much free time.

Well I want to get her back and am willing to fight for it. I want to make her want me back also. But not totaly sure what to do. Her best friend keeps telling her how perfect I am for her and how dumb she was to let me go. But I really think I just smutherd her and made her lose the feelings.

HALP! :nervous:


Nick

 

[McKindley]

What about her friend?

 

[Muppet]

Her friend is my brothers ex, but they still like eachother just are to busy with school and live 600 miles away atm.

 

[Brother_Rapp]

Attention for a gal is like a nut. Don't spend any more free time with her. Let her get her security somewhere else. People only do so much as they have to do to get what they want. She looks like she's getting attention from you and not giving up shyt. Move on down the line. If she really likes you, she'll get on the pot and go that extra 6 inches to get you. If not then you'll have more time to find somebody that will be thinking of you like you want them to be thinking about you.

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by Muppet

I went out and found some old friends and am going out with them now and then, trying to show here I have more of a life now
Nick

your on the right track keep going

 

[Dublinsfinest]

You are willingly allowing yourself to be put in the friendship zone.

STOP hanging around her so much. She feels all comfy and safe around you? That's the worst way she should feel if she isn't going out with you. You are FIRMLY a friend to her right now.

In fact, you have ONEITIS.

The way to get her back? Get other women. Be SEEN with other women. Fu*k other women and make sure she knows about it. Don't be her EMOTIONAL TAMPON. Be c/f and hardly ever spend time with her.

This is THE WAY to overcome this.

Take this advice and use it or continue to ive in frustration.

 

[Skullcrusher]

Instead of asking "how can I get out" , how about "what can I do to prepare for the next girl"

She's gone bro, suck it up.

 

[McKindley]

I was totally LJBFed by a girl last semester. I spent all sorts of time with her, cooked for her a few times, a whole bunch of stuff. Regular AFC stuff.


Then I got tired of being her friend. I wanted more or nothing at all. So I quit calling her. Tuesday night she calls and tells me how much she misses me. Asks me out for a drink.

We go to the bar and she kinos and gives me a lot of compliments. We both get trashed. When we leave the bar she wants to turn right, I say left (We live in the same building, and that's where we were headed)

I tell her "If I'm right and it IS to the left, you owe me a kiss"

It was to the left. She gave me a kiss, and then a HELL of a back massage. Then we're laying in the bed with her in my arms. Its nice. Then she goes and throws up. I wait till she's done and I know she's fine. I go home. That kind of killed it for me for the night.

Kind of sucks for her boyfriend, but what he doesn't know can't hurt him.

Ignore the girl you are interested in for a while. By that I don't mean a week, I mean forget about her and if she calls you, great! When she calls and ya'll go out, be sure to let her know (no, I don't mean TELL her) what you're after.

See where I went wrong with this girl before is I never came on to her, so she LJBFed me. Because if a girl doesn't KNOW you are interested that's what she's GONNA do. Take control of the situation. Treat her like a girl you are interested in, not just as a friend.

But maybe I'm full of it.