How can I get a woman to go to my cottage?

[SharinganUser]

Hey, I have a question that has plagued me forever and I can't figure it out.

The deal is that my parents own a family resort near a provincial park. It's right on lake/river, so there is beautiful beach, stars at night, sunset, all that romantic nature stuff that chicks love.

The problem is that it is about four to five hours away from where I currently live. There is also the issue of my parents. Meeting parents is a big step or so I am told.

I also have trouble getting second dates. I basically have coffee with them and then either I don't connect with them or I drop them off at their boyfriends place. (my last gf had a very bad husband, but that is different thread).

Anyway, I basically need a road map on how I can get from coffee date to sex on the beach. Having access to a family resort is like my trump card, but I never learned how to use it properly to my advantage because for the last 4 or 5 years I've been living hours and hours away from home (4.5hrs).

 

[lookyoung]

First of all coffee dates are pretty bad dates if your looking to get laid. Usually I go on coffee dates with girls I met through the internet, so I can at least get a good look at them. (Just started the online game about 3 months ago).

I find them to be pretty boring. These dates can work with the intellectual types and they are ok at building rapport. But if your strictly looking to get laid than go out for some drinks. Personally I think a coffee date is the absolute worst date if you want to get laid.

As far as taking girls back to your parents resort?

you should probably have sex with a girl first before taking them back to the resort. once there interest level rises than take them back there and they will fall in love with you.

 

[SharinganUser]

Ok, so instead of coffee, go for irish coffee. Gotcha.

What about the main part of my question?

 

[SharinganUser]

Hmm I thought I could get more help on this subject.

 

[samaka]

It seems like the point of the thread is how you can make use of your parents resort?

Why would you risk a 4 hour trip (each way) for the sake of sex?

IMHO forget the whole resort idea - win them over on your own merits.

 

[SharinganUser]

It seems like the point of the thread is how you can make use of your parents resort?

Why would you risk a 4 hour trip (each way) for the sake of sex?

IMHO forget the whole resort idea - win them over on your own merits.

1) yes that's the point 2)because I enjoy sex. 3) I am not ashamed of being from a well off family. I was for a long time and never really told anyone that I've lived on a 300sq acre resort. It IS a part of who I am and I want to know how to use that to my advantage.

I am asking for help and so far I am not seeing how any of this can help me.

 

[samaka]

Well my point was kinda that if you can convince her to go for a 4 hour drive to your parents resort, then you can probably convince her to go for a 15 min drive back to your house.

Edit: It's like me saying how can I use my Ferrari to pick up chicks? If you want a chick who likes you for your material **** then just ask every random woman you meet to go away with you (or for drive using the Ferrari analogy). It's not about being ashamed of being well off.

 

[The Shocker]

Why are you going out with girls with bfs/husbands and then dropping them off at those guys' houses?

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Why are you going out with girls with bfs/husbands and then dropping them off at those guys' houses?

Cause he's an idiot.

Next question please.

 

[SharinganUser]

Cause he's an idiot.

Next question please.

No, I was exagerating.... I actually drop them off a few blocks away.


Ok, seriously though. My last(first n only) gf last summer was actually married. The last girl I went on a date with about a month ago had bf(well more like a part time bf cause she's is infact crazy). I freaked out when she told me that after made a noobie mistake by making my move. (actually that's two noobie mistakes, making the move and freaking out)

My purpose purpose for this thread was to learn how to use what I consider my trump card for attracting women.

I've learned how to use it alittle bit, ie mentioning it in a casual conversation when I am asked "what do you do?" When I was a total AFC, I wouldn't have even brought it up because I too wanted women to like me for me. But now that I do bring it up and I am proud of it, their ears and eyes just perk up.

I must have miscommunicated somewhere on this thread that I want a relationship. The fact is that I do not want a relationship. The fact is I essentially want to learn how to (metaphorically) use a cannon to kill a fly. But since I am still a noob(but not an afc), I have no freaking clue how to use my trump card.

I understand that people are still going to come on here and tell me useless crap like Just be yourself. But honestly if you had the choice of picking up your date in honda civic or a farrari, which car is she going to be riding in?

The fact is that I metaphorically have a farrari, but I have no freaking clue how to drive it. (I don't have an actual farrari or an expensive car)

Since no one is seemingly willing or able to come up with any game plans. I just get the ball rolling and tell you all about one I tried when I was a complete noobie/afc hybrid.

What me and my buddies did arrange a weekend party for Canada Day weekend. We are good friends with some girls from Ottawa and we invited them, (actually they may have been the ones to arrange the party), they invited about 10 girls with them. One of them was a smokin' hot asian woman. Long story short, I was an afc and totally ****ed things up.

Anyway, a brief summary is that I should have more get togethers up there. A one on one situation impossible on such short terms as far as I know. But I think more parties with friends that just happen to have a hottie for a friend will increase my odds. What do you guys think about that?

Does anyone have any other ideas?

 

[Last Man Standing]

Yes, I have the answer!! I am not a rich man but am one who is enriched!!! Have a group function/get-together as a weekend kind-a-thing!!! Have someone you know who your parents do not know set it up - (with your invites, of course) thus removing yourself from responsibility - charge them the minimal rate! Let the hos in for free, needless to say - nonetheless stated!!!!

 

[Full Throttle]

5 hours is too far away.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Ok, seriously though. My last(first n only) gf last summer was actually married.

She wasn't your girfriend then. She was a cheating ho. You can't have a girlfriend who is married to another dude. Its not called a girlfriend then.

The last girl I went on a date with about a month ago had bf(well more like a part time bf cause she's is infact crazy). I freaked out when she told me that after made a noobie mistake by making my move. (actually that's two noobie mistakes, making the move and freaking out)

How about going out with a crazy chick that already had a boyfriend? I would count that as another mistake.

My purpose purpose for this thread was to learn how to use what I consider my trump card for attracting women.

WTF are you smoking? There's no such thing as a trump card. One thing will not attract a woman. It takes more than just ONE thing.

Since no one is seemingly willing or able to come up with any game plans. I just get the ball rolling and tell you all about one I tried when I was a complete noobie/afc hybrid.

Attracting women is not like a game plan. Its a state.

Do you have a game-plan for making friends? No. You find people you like, you hang out with them, socialize... etc.

Getting women is like that. Except you do completely different things.

Long story short, I was an afc and totally ****ed things up.

You need to shut your thoughts. This what you think, this is what you are.

Read "As a man thinketh" by Allen.

Does anyone have any other ideas?

Yeah. Go to: www.theplayersupremeshow.com and register for an account. Explain yourself to the Administrator and he will let you post and ask questions.

He teaches how to BE. Not how to act. You can't expect to put on an appearance and to get women. It doesn't work that way. Its extreemly innefective.

You either become or you don't. You can pretend all you want but until you change yourself to respond to your goal, you will not achieve.

ANYTHING.


Its just like going to the gym. You care about it and are motivated to go and you succeed, you gain muscle. You can't pretend to be motivated. You will achieve nothing that way.

 

[Sir Juanalot]

Why dont you go to where the cottage thing is, and find women there? Over a few weekends etc?

 

[SharinganUser]

She wasn't your girfriend then. She was a cheating ho. You can't have a girlfriend who is married to another dude. Its not called a girlfriend then.



How about going out with a crazy chick that already had a boyfriend? I would count that as another mistake.

I didn't know they were attached when I asked them out. There is no way I could've known. They went out with me anyway, and when they told me this crap I dumped them. I have had a lot of of bad luck. End of story.

WTF are you smoking? There's no such thing as a trump card. One thing will not attract a woman. It takes more than just ONE thing.

I never said there was just one thing that attracts women. I have many qualities about me that people like. I am still working on improving those qualities.

Attracting women is not like a game plan. Its a state.

Do you have a game-plan for making friends? No. You find people you like, you hang out with them, socialize... etc.

Getting women is like that. Except you do completely different things.

No, I don't have a game plan for making friends, I do exactly what you mention. However, when it comes to attracting women that doesn't seem to be enough.

You need to shut your thoughts. This what you think, this is what you are.

Read "As a man thinketh" by Allen.

So I am supposed to deny that I was a depressed, bullied teen, that had poor social skills? I don't really understand what you are saying.

You either become or you don't. You can pretend all you want but until you change yourself to respond to your goal, you will not achieve.

ANYTHING.

Again, I am having trouble understanding what you are saying. I honestly don't know what you think I am pretending.

I just wanted to know what other guys in my situation would do. This was bad from the start, making this thread, thinking the idea, and everything else.

I only have a few weeks left of school and I still haven't got laid since school started in september. That bother's me alot and what bothers me just as much is that I may not get laid over the summer. So I was trying get some idea's on how to improve my game for the future. I am moving to the other side of Canada in a few weeks for the summer, so this isn't something I could would try for a long while.

Anyway, I'm going to give up on the whole idea. I am just going focus on some other things that I have to accomplish in the next couple weeks, and forget about women.

 

[CalmCoolAndConfident]

Coffee dates only work if they arent the whole date. Meet there, talk, stay for a little while then take her out somewhere fun.

 

[SharinganUser]

Coffee dates only work if they arent the whole date. Meet there, talk, stay for a little while then take her out somewhere fun.

This is the type of stuff I don't usually figure out on my own. Now I'll assimilated it into my repetoir.

Why dont you go to where the cottage thing is, and find women there? Over a few weekends etc?

Because it's in a rural town, and because the few hot women there all go out with hockey players.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

No, I don't have a game plan for making friends, I do exactly what you mention. However, when it comes to attracting women that doesn't seem to be enough.

That means that you are not enough. You are missing something. Whether it be confidence, enough energy... etc.

You need to work on yourself.

So I am supposed to deny that I was a depressed, bullied teen, that had poor social skills? I don't really understand what you are saying.

If I can do it, so can you. Trust me... I didn't even have a childhood, or dependable supportive parents and family. Everyone wanted to tear me down. Ever since I was a little toddler. Weak Fvckers.

If I can shut out that crap, so can you. No good can come of living in the pain of the past.

Shut out the garbage, and get away from what's causing you problems. I'm not saying come to terms with it... just let it go. You got better things to focus on.

Again, I am having trouble understanding what you are saying. I honestly don't know what you think I am pretending.

Techniques are a form of pretending. Pretending you are funny by using canned material, pretending you are confident by making situations and acting like a confident dude.

That bother's me alot and what bothers me just as much is that I may not get laid over the summer.

Why are you so stressed out about this? What are you trying to prove?

So I was trying get some idea's on how to improve my game for the future.

Game is internal. Its a state, an attitude. You can't just put it on like a mask... a series of tips and techniques.

I am just going focus on some other things that I have to accomplish in the next couple weeks, and forget about women.

Good. Focus on yourself. Women are secondary. Just for fun. You stress out too much over them, you lose them.

 

[donjuanjovi]

Have you tried asking them? Seems to work for me when I want someone to come somewhere with me. But than again, I'm a little old fashioned.

If that doesn't work, try some rohypnol.

 

[djSlvt]

But if your strictly looking to get laid than go out for some drinks.

Daaaa. Get her drunk if you want to get laid.



Coffee date is pretty good man. You take a chick to star bucks, tell her you want to see if she is qualified to be with you. Casual stuff, from then on you can make it a bigger date. You see it dont have to be just coffee, you can drink coffee, then if you want you can do more, go to the zoo, park, whatever. Or, take her home. Coffee house to home. Its possible.



As far as getting a lady to drive with you for 4 hours, that can be taken to your advantage. You can ask a girl to meet you at the resort, or you can drive with her to the resort. Its a little of a "I want you more than for sex" type of situation, if you bringing a lady that far for a romantic get away. So Id do it to women Im interested in, to those that I had sex with more than once, and to those that live near the resort (www.plentyoffish.com / www.adultfriendfinder.com / www.match.com).