"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How can I exude sexuality?

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Fellas,

I sometimes feel like I am invisible to women.

I work out regularly and I am quite good shape.

What tips can you give me for coming across as more sexual?

I remember there was a great thread on this a while back but it disappeared.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Flirt confidently. Be a little challenging but be cute about it.
 
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That's the thread I started and stickied for a few months. Look up "how to become more sexual".
 
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I found the old post. It's good, but I have a problem with it.

One of the main things is eye contact. One of the posters even recommends getting rid of your glasses when you go to talk to women.

Here's the thing: I'M BLIND. Like, in the legal sense. Can't drive a car. It took me years to learn how to make eye contact. So ditching the glasses won't happen.

Is it that big a deal? How can I work around it?
 
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Hey Leporello, nice to see another DC man on here. What do you think abt this area? Any spots you hit with good success?

As far as eye contact goes, i'd say lose the glasses if possible. Perhaps catch their eye on the first meet, then do a dramatic glasses take off. It's definitely not something that needs to be done. If you truly can't take your glasses off work on the other aspects of being sexual. Kino, body language, etc. I find good eye contact does have it's benefits though.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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SoSuave666 said:
Hey Leporello, nice to see another DC man on here. What do you think abt this area? Any spots you hit with good success?

As far as eye contact goes, i'd say lose the glasses if possible. Perhaps catch their eye on the first meet, then do a dramatic glasses take off. It's definitely not something that needs to be done. If you truly can't take your glasses off work on the other aspects of being sexual. Kino, body language, etc. I find good eye contact does have it's benefits though.
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Actually i haven't lived in DC in years...I find it way too status-conscious. Though Adams Morgan can get pretty lively. Most of my DC-area friends got to work-related happy hours to find dates.

Really, I think the glasses are here to stay unless I get laser eye surgery, which at this point in my life would be inconvenient. Maybe in the future.
 
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I would venture to say that most of us have a severe deficit in one of the categories. That's no problem, you just work on the other stuf and that tends to override the deficit. Yours is your eyes. So leave your glasses on and accentuate other things. I disagree with the need to take them off, by the way. Just wear cool ones that make a statement.
 
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Exuding sexuality is something that can only be done when there are sexually attracted females around. No females, no sexuality.

Sometimes I would have trouble getting rid of my sexual tone when I talk to women because, well, I was doing it to all of them. I couldn't help it. When women are vibing with you on a sexual vibration, it's like all they can hear is your voice among all that ambient noise wherever you may be.

TBH sometimes it's hit and miss, sometimes I wouldn't get the sexual vibe going for a whole night. But when a girl comes along who is vibrating on that same vibration, I try to identify that. And it's not hard. Women are very sexual in nature.

From the tone of your post though, I am guessing you don't have any real confidence in your own demeanor. If you want to get confidence, well I can only recommend that you learn the things that you don't know. If you are unaware of women's crazy instincts, just educate yourself on that. Sometimes it's better to say less than is necessary and to just soak up the environment.

I can tell you I've seen Don Juans (not from this forum) who game with their mouths, yapping all the time and making the women love it, and there's guys who don't say much - the strong silent type, who just take over a chick's life for 1 or 2 days and make sure they get the fvck on one of those days.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Leporello said:
Here's the thing: I'M BLIND. Like, in the legal sense. Can't drive a car. It took me years to learn how to make eye contact. Is it that big a deal? How can I work around it?
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Well you should be able to get a less attractive woman and not mind since you can't see her, so I wouldn't think your overall chances of happiness are less. Just find one who can drive.

To OP: Have you tried an organic diet, detoxifaction, liver cleansing and fasting? Nothing makes your skin more radiant than that.
 
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