"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How can I deal with this fear?

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One of my fears about dating is best summed up by Dex In the Tao of Steve


"Dex: Amen! I mean my biggest fear is that I'm gonna marry the woman that I want to hang out with and talk to in my golden years and then die in a fiery car crash when I'm forty and I miss all those years of having sex."


The unfortunate thing about my experience is that I have little and everytime I try to get some advice, I get the ol' "you don't want to go down that road." And that isn't coming from just AFC's but all sorts of people.

This lack of direction, didn't deter me, but made me a sort of Ronnin DJ, while drastically changing what I want out of life. I used to want to settle down and all that AFC BS. Now I just want to fvck about fifty women. Then MAYBE settle down.

Has anyone else felt this way? How can I deal with this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Now I just want to fvck about fifty women. Then MAYBE settle down.
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You'll see after about 6 or 7 that mostly all of them are the same and no girl no matter the face or body is going to give you anything special sex-wise. I'm no old-timer, but pretty mature and alot of life experience and I can tell you, sex with someone who you love is better than fvcking 1000 women in your life-time.

Always trying to improve, communicating fears, emotional closeness, ect...

Might sound AFC and femaleish, and well maybe my girl just has me whipped but i'm seeing life through a new pair of lenses. The purpose of life is to find your partner and to share memories. Would you rather die alone with the memories of all the 9's and 10's you've fvcked in ur past or die next to the love of your life ?


-Cod3r
 
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I'd rather not die at all thanks. I am to young to settle down now. To me this isn't just about finding the "one." This is about setting out to do something realistic that will make finding the one easier and keeping easier as well. I am not successful at a whole lot of things, but this is one thing that I have chosen to pursue.

It is frustrating and unfair, that I would have to sit arround waiting for the one, while everyone else is out having fun. I want to have fun to. I don't think that is wrong. And I am no longer ashamed of it either.

I am not at the point in my life where I want to or even can settle down. I just want to have some fun while striving for a tangible goal. I am single, I don't think I should be tied down to someone I haven't even met yet. If she convinces me to give that goal up, then great, if not then it likely wasn't going to work out anyway. Besides, I am young and have the rest of my life to find the one, I don't have the rest of my life to have as much fun as I can right now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Cod3r said:
You'll see after about 6 or 7 that mostly all of them are the same and no girl no matter the face or body is going to give you anything special sex-wise. I'm no old-timer, but pretty mature and alot of life experience and I can tell you, sex with someone who you love is better than fvcking 1000 women in your life-time.

Always trying to improve, communicating fears, emotional closeness, ect...

Might sound AFC and femaleish, and well maybe my girl just has me whipped but i'm seeing life through a new pair of lenses. The purpose of life is to find your partner and to share memories. Would you rather die alone with the memories of all the 9's and 10's you've fvcked in ur past or die next to the love of your life ?


-Cod3r
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Good for you Cod3r. It's nice to see somebody on this sight who understands there are other succesful mindsets that run contrary to everything everybody here preaches without question
 
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