How can I deal with an AMOG'er?

[SharinganUser]

There is this guy in my class at college, he's a cool guy and all, everyone likes him. I won't say that he's is using AMOG on purpose or doing for whatever reason, but he certainly has AMOG tendancies. This gets frustrating for me at times.

Last time he took my responsibilities in our cooking lab, with out asking me. If he had of asked to help out, I would be fine with it because I was totally fvcking up everything, but I had left for a minute and when I got back, he was doing my job, and then later asked why I was standing arround. I know that isn't a typical AMOG, but I don't think it did anything to help my status. Generally he makes amog comments here and there.

I can only think of one way to combat an AMOG, I am sure calmly dismissing it would work. eg "Hmmm..... Did you say something?"

But since that is all I can think of, I want to know MORE strategies about how to deal with AMOG. Any ideas?

 

[SharinganUser]

Doesn't anyone have an idea?

 

[MisterNigma]

Don't leave him with openings to AMOG you. Pay for the cab first next time. Ignore, or dismiss his comments.

I'd tread carefully though, from what you're saying I get the feeling the guy doesn't AMOG you on purpose, it's just his personality. Easiest thing would be to avoid him, but that is also be the most extreme thing to do.

Good Luck.

-E.Nigma

 

[SharinganUser]

Can't really do that. Our class is small and tightly knit. Are there any other strategies?

 

[Cod3r]

He sees you as a pansy man and hence is taking what little power you have...

You just sound wimpy, only guys that get AMOG'd are those that aren't respected



-Cod3r

 

[SharinganUser]

So what can I do about it? That's what I want to know.

 

[Charm]

Cod3r,

I agree that he is not respected by this guy but this guy may not respect anyone and thus AMOGs whomever, whenever.

My advice is to be bold and take the iniative whenever you want to. If he crosses you, stand up for yourself. Dont get pushed around without pushing back or neutralizing the sitaution, just dont go trying to stir up trouble either.

Be a man. Lift weights, build confidence, show your alpha nature and that he cannot affect your positive attitude.

Kill him with kindness by not lowering yourself to his level.

 

[Cod3r]

^ ^ Definitely not...

Even a guy who dosen't respect anyone takes the path of least resistance. I've seen guys who don't respect anyone and will fight anyone, but I've never been messed with and anyone with anytype of self-esteem and just a general 'man' sense of being is always left alone...

If you're being picked upon, chances are you're a pansy (no offense to the original poster). That's been my experience, I've never seen someone get AMOG'd or bullied or disrespected whom didn't have that 'pansy' look...


-Cod3r

 

[SharinganUser]

My confidence is good, I am bigger than him, I take martial arts. I think he might be a little threatened by my presence in the class and needs to amog to keep his status. I just need to know how to deal with the little amoging things he does. What would you do?

 

[Cod3r]

^ ^ Def. not, you probably have a 'pansy' look bro... trust me

It has nothing to do with size, its attitude


-Cod3r

 

[Wolves]

Make friends with him. All this other advice "ignore him bla bla" just proves to him that you're intimidated, my friends make amog-like comments all the time, it's just them playin around ur not supposed to take it seriously lmao. Just joke back with him (might be hard if you actually ARE intimidated by him, but if you are then you've got bigger problems lol) it doesn't sound like he's actively trying to ruin your game in this scenario, like I say he's prolly just playin, so play back.

He takes your responsibilities in the cooking lab, just sit back n be like "yo don't forget to do such n such (I dunno, whatever you do in cooking lab lol)" then just sit back in your chair and laugh. If he busts on you for bein lazy just be like "hey you're the one who wanted to do my job for me, whatchu want me to do, say no? hahaha"

 

[Charm]

You have a limited experience with people who show little or no respect to people if that is what you think.

Also, there are plenty of men and people with self-esteem who still get harassed and bothered by people who dont care about anyone but themselves and have violent personalities. You have obviously not met these kinds of people but dont be naive and think they are not out there because they are.

^ ^ Definitely not...

Even a guy who dosen't respect anyone takes the path of least resistance. I've seen guys who don't respect anyone and will fight anyone, but I've never been messed with and anyone with anytype of self-esteem and just a general 'man' sense of being is always left alone...

If you're being picked upon, chances are you're a pansy (no offense to the original poster). That's been my experience, I've never seen someone get AMOG'd or bullied or disrespected whom didn't have that 'pansy' look...


-Cod3r

 

[SharinganUser]

Ah, crap, I don't know what to do. I think I'll take you two's advice for the long run and just dismiss what he says with a "hmm, did you say something?" in the mean time.

 

[Charm]

Sharingan,

If he insults you, just laugh it off. Dont let him pull you into his petty games.

 

[\O/]

Think arrogance and act accordingly. Ignore, use snappy comebacks and condecending and patronizing behavior are all great things.

 

[Wolves]

I'm tellin u, just ignoring his comments or "laughing them off" (unless you treat them like a joke and joke back) is just gonna make you look like a *****.

If you do that whole "hmm... did you say somethin?" thing he'll probably just repeat whatever he said even louder, then what are you gonna do?

Dude he's challenging you, and you're just backing down, you think that makes you look good to the women you're trying to game? I'm not sayin you need to get ANGRY and actually INSULT him back (I don't get the feeling he's really insulting you anyway, as you say he just makes amog comments once in a while), but you can't just ignore it and expect it to go away or that ignoring it will somehow make you "the bigger man".

When I was a kid in grade school I got picked on my fair share, and all the advice I got was to just ignore it. This is HORRIBLE advice and it only made things worse, because if you HEAR it, there's no possible way for you to ignore it, it's always gonna show thru in your body language that you heard it and at that point if you try to ignore it you're just showing everyone that it really did get to you. I took that advice all the way up through grade school and by the time I was supposed to go on to middle school I begged my parents to homeschool me cuz I couldn't take it. Then when I went back into a normal school environment in highschool everything started up again, and my first year it was the same old thing all over again.

But my second year there I finally got it. When people "pick on you" most of the time they're not trying to be mean. If you look at the way a lot of guys just communicate with their friends its the same, they'll bust on em for bombing with a chick, lookin weird, whatever, but they only mean it in fun they're not really like out to get you, that's just how they communicate with friends. There was this one kid who would always accuse me of being gay for whatever reason, finally I was just like "yo dude I'm seriously not gay, I know you really want my ass but it's just not gonna happen, im not into guys, why don't u talk to jeff (some openly gay kid in our class) if u really want some man love". And I said all this in a joking way with a smile on my face and u know what, within like a week I was friends with this kid lmao.

All i'm sayin is he's prolly just jokin with you, you're takin it WAY too seriously commin to a msb and askin what to do, gettin mad about it and everything. I know its tough to come to this realization and ur prolly not ready for it yet, so w/e just do your ignore thing n let us know how that works out for ya.

 

[SharinganUser]

lol, I get you wolf, yeah I take things a tad to seriously. Last time I joked arround with him, I just couldn't "win." I was being funny, but it wasn't quite AMOG funny. We were kneading dough and he started joking arround so I said, don't worry I can do this I got magic hands. He snappy come back like "Oh really what happened to them." I couldn't think of anything to say. I should have just dropped a bomb on him said "I'll never make great bread like you, I just don't masturbate that much."

I am a funny guy, I'll joke arround and see where that goes. If I can't think of anything to say, then I ask if said something, to give me an extra second of course to think of something to say.

 

[Wolves]

When in doubt just pull out a "your mom" reference.

Like in your example with the magic hands, something like "they must be tired from workin on your mom last night".

Never fails hahahaha.

 

[donpepot]

Obsereve joe pesci's character on good fellas..youl have your aswer there.

 

[Jay Jay]

Keep Your Frame.

I'm not the biggest guy... Actually I'm pretty short. At school I was skinny. But I can charm girls socks off. As a result I have much experience with AMOGs.

My school had the best football team in Sydney and as a result all these huge meatheads came to my school. A lot of them were professional athletes at 17 or 18. Of course they had all the hot girls.

Except the ones I got.

How did I work it? Well firstly you need to realise that AMOG behaviour is coming from a position of weakness. You say that you are bigger than this guy and could probably kick his arse. Good. You have the power. It shows clearly that what he is doing is rather pathetic.

Highlight what he is doing in a funny way.

I'll give you an example.

I was chatting to this footy player's (one of this guys legs would have weighed more than me) girlfriend. When he saw me he marched over and stood over me as if he was going to beat me to a pulp. "You look constipated dude." I said.

He didn't know what to do and marched off. I looked at his GF with an expression of WTF. (and slept with her that night!).

AMOG behavior is pathetic. Don't get sucked into his reality. Remember you are the powerful one.

JJ