"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How can I be more like him?

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The other day my Ex came over and met my roomie, he is not good looking at all but she seemed to react really well to the way he talked and acted. I am a very quite person, I don't say much unless it needs to be said. He is very loud and outgoing, he was busting her balls about things and makeing random comments about the movie we were watchihg.

I just have such a hard time being more outgoing like that. If I am talking to my friends about hobbies or something like that I can bust their balls great and chat it up, but random things I suck at.

I have known this for a long time and I keep trying to "come out of my shell" but it's so damn hard, even drunk I act the same.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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For me it took time to be that person. Most of it is also a matter of confidence. I was also once a very shy person. In fact, back in grade 1 people thought I didn't have the ability to talk. Though the best advice I was given was to study off of these guys. You'll start noticing trends and then you'll be able to incorporate it in your game.
 
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If I am talking to my friends about hobbies or something like that I can bust their balls great and chat it up, but random things I suck at.
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You have a social creature within, but he only comes out when he does not feel insecure or threatened.

Your problem is twofold

1. Girls are intimidating and this keeps you from unwinding, relaxing and just being yourself

2. If you can only chat and vibe about limited topics (your hobbies) then you need to broaden your experience a little more. Develop a lust for life and learning so that you become more well-rounded as a person, and can bring more to the table. If you have nothing to say for yourself, that alone says a lot about what is lacking in your life.

You can mimick or fake the charisma your friend displays, but it wont deal with the root of your issues.

My advice is to let your hair down, get out there and do some living.

Nature (and women) have no stomach for the timid!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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