How can I be a jerk Pronto?!? Quick advice please!

[ryanbo29]

Hey guys..

I've been dating a girl for like 4 months.. one date a week. Anyhow... Lately she's been pulling back since moving in with her roomy. She's always been a major hot girl and challenge.

But look what has happened lately.

THIS WEEKEND: This Memorial Day week she said she didn't want to plan anything because she wanted to be able to hang with all of her friends impromptu. She told me to please call or txt her though and we can maybe hook up.

THIS WEEK: This Wednesday she came over but said she had to go home and not sleep over. She rarely has ever done that.

LAST WEEKEND: she said she had plans on Saturday, and asked if we could hang on Sunday. I told her I was busy. Regardless, Sat at 1 am she came over and we had sex.

Anyway I see a pattern of pulling back. People say 'be a jerk' but how do I do it smoothly since shes known me for four months.

For example - if she txts me over the weekend, what do I do? Not respond? Wait awhile to respond? What?

What if she calls?

Can someone just give me some quick answers or a blueprint on how to get this girl back on the chase?

Thanks!

 

[aftershock]

You are allowing her to take the initiative. She is controlling your relationship. This is wrong since you are the man.

You need to be FIRM with her, not a jerk. Make plans, and stick to them. Do not accept maybes with this girl.

You are being too available too. I'm sure that theres a Bible post on this. If you can't see her, don't sit at home feeling sorry for yourself, go out with your mates. Go for a jog. Go meet some other women.

Also accept that the relationship is maybe, but by no means certaintly, coming to an end. Don't get too pissed off if you have to break up with her.

 

[ryanbo29]

Oh I'm not waiting around for her. I've been out every night, hitting on women. But I do like her. Thanks for your post.

My plan so far is:

- Do not contact her this weekend
- If she contacts me via TXT, be sluggish to reply, and when I do, tell her I have plans.

Any other help would be great. I agree with you though, she seems to be taking control.

 

[MetalFortress]

If she is displeasing you, put her on ice. It's that simple, and very effective.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Good luck dude, she is sexing other dudes - this is quite obvious , she is a hor and this is what hors do!!!!

Why are you loyal to a hor?? This hor is not loyal to you!!!

Hors are not loyal to anyone - not even to themselves!!!

If you want her back (yes, you lost her) act like a pimp!!

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Next time you talk to her, tell her that you are not going to stand all these flakes she is giving you, and that you will not tolerate it nor talk to her if she continues........

she should be apologetic.....if she aint apologetic and trys to act all tough........then, bye, next, see-ya-later, one.

 

[ryanbo29]

Really? I thought showing that you care is the un DJ thing to do? Id like to do that I think... Or should I just pull back?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Ryan, read your initial post again!!!

She doesn't want you!!!!

A 3 day weekend and she wants to be "on-call" (impromptu) "in case" "possibly" "maybe' "potientially" "out of a whim" "in happenstance" "unplanned' something or someone "may" call me!!!!!!

You are a "sure" thing and her so-called b/f but she denies you????

Wake up kid, "The Matrix" has you - she is seeing other dudes!!!!!!!!!

Do you know why a woman doesn't want her b/f around???? Because she is seeing other dudes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

yeah buddy...this iis Pvssy again...(pvssy haha)

Yeah you are correct, the don juan attitude is positive, and does not allow negative things to effect it at all.. I am not advising you to blow up or turn to Stone Cold Steve Austin (thats humor) and give her a stunner....

But since you guys are in a relationship, she has an obligation to spend time with you and not continue to give you the run-around...if you were not in a relationship with her, then you are right, you should not care, but this is a relationship, and she aint holding up her end of the bargain....so either next her or sadly, hold on to someone who will continue walking on you.......reply if you have any concerns..