justhe_justin
Don Juan
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try stretching , that may help, ive heard of people gaining up to 3 inches , but you shrink back down soon as you stop
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
try stretching , that may help, ive heard of people gaining up to 3 inches , but you shrink back down soon as you stop
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Some good points in here. More alpha than the best fighter, is the men who have the brains to go with it, the ones that can lead and manipulate without having to fight.Personally, I'm from a small town where multiple fist fights would break out every weekend, this being all the baby faced dudes, then eventually, one of the baby faces would figure out he had hands.
Having hands, I mean like some kids would just maul dudes, they move different and hit different. Those dudes kind of ascended to being Alpha, but could not maintain that position socially, only physically.
The thing you have to understand though, is that these guys, they would fist fight because they were Beta. They were submissive. They were not confident. All the Alpha men, we didn't engage in fist fights unless we were legitimately angry, it was not a thing of position, but just pure emotion.
Aggression, is a Beta attribute. Alpha men have no reason to be aggressive because our spot is secure, where as the betas fight over position to the bitter end.
Aggro is bad, just stand your ground if you are Alpha or engage in self development if Beta.
How does one learn verbal defense?So the question is, why are you focused on your jawline? I would turn the question around and ask, what will make me feel the most confident? Here's a hint - if it sounds fun, that probably is not it. It's going to involve leaving a comfort zone. No jaw exercises can make this happen.
Speaking of jawing, learning verbal self defense can be a big life-changer.
this is something most men need to do.. if you wake up and think something sucks... or it makes you uncomfortable... you need to do that. It’s the only way you grow!would turn the question around and ask, what will make me feel the most confident? Here's a hint - if it sounds fun, that probably is not it. It's going to involve leaving a comfort zone. No jaw exercises can make this happen.
I'll check the show out. Have always been hesitant to stir the waters and it has been at my expense. Definitely have been the type in the past to take **** from people, not because I couldn't defend myself, but rather I didn't care enough to start a conflict and chose to keep the peace.Alpha is being in control... being self reliant.. being confident... being able to stand on your own and not follow the crowd. One night I was drinking with friends and they put the Hulu series Letterkenny on.... if you watch Wayne in that series... he is an alpha.... it’s probably one of the few times they get it right.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My thoughts exactly...It's funny 'cause it's true!One looks like a dork and the other an athlete.
(Except for the small town part) +1....Well sighted and stated!Personally, I'm from a small town where multiple fist fights would break out every weekend, this being all the baby faced dudes, then eventually, one of the baby faces would figure out he had hands.
Having hands, I mean like some kids would just maul dudes, they move different and hit different. Those dudes kind of ascended to being Alpha, but could not maintain that position socially, only physically.
The thing you have to understand though, is that these guys, they would fist fight because they were Beta. They were submissive. They were not confident. All the Alpha men, we didn't engage in fist fights unless we were legitimately angry, it was not a thing of position, but just pure emotion.
Aggression, is a Beta attribute. Alpha men have no reason to be aggressive because our spot is secure, where as the betas fight over position to the bitter end.
Aggro is bad, just stand your ground if you are Alpha or engage in self development if Beta.
Wise approach - " Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city." - Proverbs 16:32Definitely have been the type in the past to take **** from people, not because I couldn't defend myself, but rather I didn't care enough to start a conflict and chose to keep the peace.
I guess my thinking now is to the opposite extreme which is also not good.
Nice question. mate.
We all have aggression, it is part of ourselves whether you want it or not. and it is not always physical, it can also be psychological.
Dr. Jordan Peterson talks about INTEGRATED AGGRESSION. Not raw aggression.
I’ll show you the best example I can find. In the movie “American sniper” there is this scene when the father tells his kids there are 3 kind of people in this world: Sheep, Wolves and Sheepdogs.
Sheep have repressed their aggression, they think they dont have/need it and it is bad. They are victims following the system and its rules lacking tools and knowledge about how to defend themselves… -Personified in every beta male you see out there-
Wolves know they are dangerous but anger control themselves and they are unnecessarily aggressive. They abuse people and show their aggression whenever they can. -Personified in bullies, violent partners and every scumbag you see in MCDonalds yelling because their french fries are not hot-
Now the Sheepdogs, they know they can be dangerous, they have integrated that aggression in them and can control it. They also know that the world can be dangerous and they are prepared to defend themselves and people in need. -Personified in every kind person who can kick asses when necessary, whether physically or verbally-
In order to integrate aggression you have to work on yourself: Body, Mind and Spirit.
Body: the easiest) workout, be in shape and learn how to throw some punches, grapple, etc.
Mind: Study, learn every day so you will have knowledge and good arguments when necessary. Learn when to shut up. And control your thoughts the best you can (meditation).
If you can control your thoughts you can control your actions.
Spirit: Shadow work, in order to integrate your shadow, which is part of yourself.
It is constant work but has great benefits.
So the face… When you integrate your aggression, you are more confident in yourself. It changes the look of your face, your posture and your body language… Your essence will look different… Your pictures are about genetics, it's different…
Sheep, wolves and sheepdogs scene
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think about all these idiots who have been rioting in the streets all year, on both sides. Talk about sheep.Wise approach - " Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city." - Proverbs 16:32
Some ppl just have no clue how easy it is for them to get KTFO or worse.