Unfortunately I'm one of the unlucky ones who inherited this curse and I also happen to be white which is like a double whammy because not that many white guys can pull of the shaved look and still look good. My height isn't that bad at 5'10". Hair and a good hairstyle seems to be one of the main things women size men up on, right up there with height as I've even heard several women openly make desparaging remarks about bald guys at places where I've worked. So my question is, if you're going bald how has hairloss affected how women respond to you if at all?
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You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How big of a detriment is hairloss when trying to pick up women?
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
most people have something about themselves that hurts them. whether it is being overweight, shy, not having the best job, not having the best sense of humor, etc...
one of these things in and of itself won't ruin your chances with women. if you start adding a bunch of them on top of each other it will.
so losing your hair isn't that big a deal, but you need to make sure you are in physically good shape and that you dress nicely. those two things will offset the hair loss thing in 95% of women's eyes.
one of these things in and of itself won't ruin your chances with women. if you start adding a bunch of them on top of each other it will.
so losing your hair isn't that big a deal, but you need to make sure you are in physically good shape and that you dress nicely. those two things will offset the hair loss thing in 95% of women's eyes.
From what I can tell, men seem to be much more accepting of a woman being overweight than women are of men being bald likely because there are so many guys out there with good hair for women to pick from while men have to settle for what we can get in most cases. The ratio of fit men to fit women seems to be about 30 or more to 1 so even many fit men have to settle for overweight women if they want sex on a regular basis.
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Look at Van Diesel, average looks , bald and in great shape. Alot of women find him attractive.
Physical conditioning can do wonders to the responses you get. I agree with Joeker there. Maximize your physical potential. Shoot for a muscular , lean build and you will turn heads.
I am in excellent shape 6'1 200 7 % bodyfat. Women approach me. 10 years ago before I was in shape , never once did a girl approach me. Huge Difference! Shave your head, Go to the gym!
Physical conditioning can do wonders to the responses you get. I agree with Joeker there. Maximize your physical potential. Shoot for a muscular , lean build and you will turn heads.
I am in excellent shape 6'1 200 7 % bodyfat. Women approach me. 10 years ago before I was in shape , never once did a girl approach me. Huge Difference! Shave your head, Go to the gym!
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm one of those white guys who can pull off a shaved head, but it gets old after awhile. Sure, I managed to pull women with a shaved head. Some even prefer it. I was pulling chicks ten years younger back then the same as now.
But after 8 or so years i decided I was tired of having the same look and decided to explore my options.
I posted a thread about this and got blasted by a few ignorant, closed minded people, but I decided to get a hairpiece. Not the kind you see the 70 year old grandpa's wearing, but the kind you see Beyonce or Sean Connery or Nicolas Cage or Ben Affleck or Vince Vaughn wearing. Anyone gonna kick them outa bed?
You gotta have enough confidence to pull it off, cause no matter how good it looks some people just won't be able to look past the negative stigma that stemmed from how horrible they looked in the past. But it can truly look and feel natural to the point where pretty much the only people who MIGHT be able to tell are other guys who wear. And you will get past 90% of them as well.
Some people know I wear, but only the ones who have been told. I haven't had anyone (to my knowledge) figure it out on their own. Even people who pretty much knew I was bald didn't think twice about it. They just though I grew my hair out! I even know more than a handfull of hairdressers, and the only ones who know are the ones who were told.
Seriously, it is an option an it doesn't cost much if you know where to buy.
It isn't for everyone......like i said you gotta have the confidence to pull it off. But if it's something that anyone wants to consider, PM me and i will give you all the details.
But after 8 or so years i decided I was tired of having the same look and decided to explore my options.
I posted a thread about this and got blasted by a few ignorant, closed minded people, but I decided to get a hairpiece. Not the kind you see the 70 year old grandpa's wearing, but the kind you see Beyonce or Sean Connery or Nicolas Cage or Ben Affleck or Vince Vaughn wearing. Anyone gonna kick them outa bed?
You gotta have enough confidence to pull it off, cause no matter how good it looks some people just won't be able to look past the negative stigma that stemmed from how horrible they looked in the past. But it can truly look and feel natural to the point where pretty much the only people who MIGHT be able to tell are other guys who wear. And you will get past 90% of them as well.
Some people know I wear, but only the ones who have been told. I haven't had anyone (to my knowledge) figure it out on their own. Even people who pretty much knew I was bald didn't think twice about it. They just though I grew my hair out! I even know more than a handfull of hairdressers, and the only ones who know are the ones who were told.
Seriously, it is an option an it doesn't cost much if you know where to buy.
It isn't for everyone......like i said you gotta have the confidence to pull it off. But if it's something that anyone wants to consider, PM me and i will give you all the details.
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I used to date a girl who did ads in teen magazines. A lot of models get hairpieces like that. I don't think that is really all that out of the ordinary at all.STR8UP said:
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I've been buzzing my hair regularly for 4 years now...I don't have hair loss issues (other than the ones that involve my clippers!).
I think many women prefer bald/shaved dudes. I think its important to have your own "signature look" and try and change it up from time to time if you're not happy with it.
Just make sure you're "comfortable in your own skin". Talk about cliche advice!
I think many women prefer bald/shaved dudes. I think its important to have your own "signature look" and try and change it up from time to time if you're not happy with it.
Just make sure you're "comfortable in your own skin". Talk about cliche advice!
The problem is that it is accepted by the public when it is a model or celebrity that does something to enhance their appearance. When a regular guy does it, some people will automatically label him as insecure. It's a stupid stereotype, but it exists and it keeps a lot of people from going that route who might otherwise consider it an option.MikeYikes122 said:
Hell, I never judged people because of something like that, but even I had no idea it could look so good until someone I know told me he wears. I was absolutely blown away. Never in a million years would I have guessed. He whipped out his drivers license and I was like "Who is that". It was him, but bald. And he looked SOOOO much better with hair. He looked like a crazed serial killer without.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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This issue is very interesting to me. I'm fortunate enough to have good hair. My brother, who is a coupla years younger, is well on his way to baldness. Not fair.
But, if he avails himself of options other than just giving up and shaving, he gets labeled "insecure," or worse, sorta manipulative (False advertising?) Good thing he's in a stable marriage.
Meanwhile, chicks install hunks of plastic in their chest, and use NO end of "beauty" products, makeup, fake hair, dyed hair, push-up bras, etc.
Another double standard, but I'd never want to have to live the way women have to. I can look like sh*t if I want on a given day, and still get girls.
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This issue is very interesting to me. I'm fortunate enough to have good hair. My brother, who is a coupla years younger, is well on his way to baldness. Not fair.
But, if he avails himself of options other than just giving up and shaving, he gets labeled "insecure," or worse, sorta manipulative (False advertising?) Good thing he's in a stable marriage.
Meanwhile, chicks install hunks of plastic in their chest, and use NO end of "beauty" products, makeup, fake hair, dyed hair, push-up bras, etc.
Another double standard, but I'd never want to have to live the way women have to. I can look like sh*t if I want on a given day, and still get girls.
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