"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How big is social proof in college?

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What do you do if you have pretty low social proof in college(small college and reputation is pretty known), yet want get to get girls? I'll get girls looking at me sometimes, but I don't know if I even want to approach them because of my reputation. Whether they already know or find out after I talk to them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Try taking classes at a local college or try to participate in other college's events.
 

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GVdrink said:
I'll get girls looking at me sometimes, but I don't know if I even want to approach them because of my reputation.

Are you a criminal ?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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nismo-4 said:
R.U. Ugly? R.U.A. Rapist?
No no no lol nothing like that. Like I said I get girls looking at me sometimes. When I mean low social proof I mean being known as not having alot of friends(I have a few that I chill with sometimes not a huge # like most and being known as being quiet, even though I'm not around different people, just a perception other people have.
 

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"Social proof is magic". It's a quote I read from somewhere on these boards and I think it's true. So it's big everywhere. A girl's friends are much less likely to ****block you too at parties/etc... if you have a lot of social proof IMO.
 

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GVdrink said:
No no no lol nothing like that. Like I said I get girls looking at me sometimes. When I mean low social proof I mean being known as not having alot of friends(I have a few that I chill with sometimes not a huge # like most and being known as being quiet, even though I'm not around different people, just a perception other people have.
We're very thankful for that. But social proof is always a good thing. It CAN and most times, IS the make or break factor. Build that sh*t up, bro!
 

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GVdrink said:
What do you do if you have pretty low social proof in college(small college and reputation is pretty known), yet want get to get girls? I'll get girls looking at me sometimes, but I don't know if I even want to approach them because of my reputation. Whether they already know or find out after I talk to them.
you are a pu$$y.

Social proof is just a term made up by AFCs to gain false inner confidence.

Real men don't need social proof. All they need is balls.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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rocco said:
90% of game is social proof,
according to who?

Some gay furry hat magic clown?

If you behave like a man you will automatically have social proof. People like to suck value from people of higher value.
 

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rocco said:
90% of game is social proof,
I don't agree with your calculations. I still think CONFIDENCE is number 1.
 

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I'm in college and I can tell you that social proof is as important in college as it was in high school and in high school social proof was one of the most important things I don't believe 90% of the game is social proof but it certainly is an important factor and it can and will get you laid...go figure....
 

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Social proof is big ANYWHERE at ANY stage of your life. Whether your 10 or 80, if you have a lot of friends and your name is known, you will capture the attention of more women.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ChrizZ said:
you are a pu$$y.

Social proof is just a term made up by AFCs to gain false inner confidence.

Real men don't need social proof. All they need is balls.
social proof is a marketing technique used to get people to buy sh!t. when they stick a celebrity in a commerical, that's social proof. go read "Influence" by Cialdini

far has to cultivate it, just make friends and be totally cool with everyone. if you wanna see the benefits of social proof when it comes to macking, make friends with a hot girl, make it totally platonic, go hang out with her, and see how many curious looks you get from other girls. it's that simple
 

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Social proof

Sicial proof is def. a bonus but it is not very necessary. All you have to do is have some good DHV stories that you have what it takes to be a man. A man with two ball of Titanium and Plutonium. LoL!!!!!!!
 

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If you're in a dorm especially, social proof is great. And not that hard to get... Just step outside your room and say hi to some people.
 

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social proof is EVERYTHING in college.
when i was a freshman i wasn't the richest guy, i would even say my financial resources were well below average (and there were some pretty loaded pple at my school), i wasn't super attractive (good-looking face but no muscles and very bad posture), i was quiet and shy around girls, and i didn't have many friends. Actually i lived in a dorm complex of 3000+ and i barely knew 30 kids, having 5-6 close friends. Some pple viewed me as a nerd >>>> i had really low social proof.

By the end of my senior year i had hooked up wit 2 of the hottest girls in my grad (one of them i was in an LTR wit), my parties were packed wit HBs and i could get any girl i wanted. What changed? my social proof went through the roof. I mainly achieved this by socializing and gaining a lot of self confidence. it was when i stopped trying to make friends wit just anybody to gain some status and i became self-sufficient that suddenly everyone wanted to be my friend.

The point of my story was don't loose courage. keep developping yourself as an individual and once you reach a certain level of self-reliance, other like-minded individuals will gravitate towards you.

I went from jock with no girls to cool guys with hot girls and so can you!
 
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