"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Both a friend of mine and me have good contact with a girl, and we both like her a lot. I have always liked her just as a friend, but in the last weeks I’ve liked her just more for each day, and wouldn’t mind that she wore my girlfriend. We have a good contact when we talk, and she isn’t with the most popular girls.

Some days ago we vere out on a party. I imagined maybe I should try make out with her this night, but when it comes to this, I always get shy and don’t now how to go forward.
My friend is much more confident and know how to do it, so of corse he made out twice with her. We vere all very drunk. I got so sad and angry that I beated him up (not very hard though, he is my friend). It was just him and me when it happened, but everybody know it now.

I’ve tried to explain I just had a bad day and was drunk, but everybody understand why, and also think I’m really in love with her. I feel like a stupid, shy coward now. This is like my way to say I like a girl :S

I go in her parallell-class so I meet her a lot. Should I maybe pretend like nothing, or just tell her I like her and ask her out? I hope someone have any recommendings. Thank you for answeres.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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let it go, dont talk to her. you have blown your chances, she thinks your needy/insecure, its an uphill battle.

Learn from it, and find another girl.
 

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Oles,please be opened minded when reading our responses. Most of us speak from expierence. First off,do you mind telling us how old you are? Do not say "I'm sorry" to anyone,just say "it was my mistake,it won't happen again". Some may argue with me on this but I personally never say sorry,it helps to keep the value of the word to let whoever I'm "sorry" to know that I really mean it. You put yourself in deep,but none-the-less anything is possible. Stick around this site and we will help you to learn. Do not ask her out,you have not stated any signs of her being interested,post if you have them. Now I would not recommend going after the same girl as one of your friends,could cause issues like you had. Just try to her go,it will take time and you will think about her but it can be done. If you want to still give her a shot I will try to help and guide you but you have already put yourself in a uphill battle as stated already. Remember nothing is a "failure" but a lesson learned.
 

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or maybe she will be impressed that you bashed up your friend for her and you will protect if necessary - just joking. More likely she will be scared of you and what you might do if you guys were dating and she smiles at another guy. Don't think you can get out of this so just move on
 

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I'm not sure why you are pursuing this girl when you friend is kissing her???

So if I understand correctly, your friend (bro) is making out with this girl and then you beat him up for it all the while never having made an attempt to ask he girl out yourself?

1) Bro's before Ho's.
2) Move on - you aren't ready to date a women yet with that jealous attitude.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I was completely drunk that night, though I know I can't use that as an excuse. But if I hadn't been, I'm sure I would never run on my friend, I can't say how stupid I feel I've been.

It’s just that I meet her so often. I have some subjects on school with her, and I am with some of the same friends that she is, so it’s not easy to avoid meeting her. Therefore, I think trying to avoid seeing her sounds really stupid. Should I just try act normal and talk to her again like normal when I meet her?
I guess this is a lesson learned for me like blinkwatt said.
 
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