PeterCrouch
Senior Don Juan
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There HAS to be a better reply than "I'm good thanks. You?"
Surely?
Surely?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How are you?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
"I'm good, but I'll get better."
Thomas94305
Senior Don Juan
If someone asks you that.. you've been handed a golden opportunity to spin conversation. That can go so many places.
"are you being polite, or do you honestly want to know?" Sarcasm
"Well.. my morning's turning around. I am not usually a morning person. I came here, some people smiled at me and took interest. It's funny how that changes the whole day." Being human, that has to evoke something from the other person, you can spin off of that for more.
"I have xyz trip coming up, xyz goal or deadline. .. yadda yadda" Talk about your life as it is now. Treat the other like a good friend you can just open up with.
"I've been told I'm sooo great.. but you're not getting me in the sack, so you'll just have to suffer"
etc
"are you being polite, or do you honestly want to know?" Sarcasm
"Well.. my morning's turning around. I am not usually a morning person. I came here, some people smiled at me and took interest. It's funny how that changes the whole day." Being human, that has to evoke something from the other person, you can spin off of that for more.
"I have xyz trip coming up, xyz goal or deadline. .. yadda yadda" Talk about your life as it is now. Treat the other like a good friend you can just open up with.
"I've been told I'm sooo great.. but you're not getting me in the sack, so you'll just have to suffer"
etc
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.