PeterCrouch
Senior Don Juan
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There HAS to be a better reply than "I'm good thanks. You?"
Surely?
Surely?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How are you?
- Thread starter PeterCrouch
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
"I'm good, but I'll get better."
Thomas94305
Senior Don Juan
If someone asks you that.. you've been handed a golden opportunity to spin conversation. That can go so many places.
"are you being polite, or do you honestly want to know?" Sarcasm
"Well.. my morning's turning around. I am not usually a morning person. I came here, some people smiled at me and took interest. It's funny how that changes the whole day." Being human, that has to evoke something from the other person, you can spin off of that for more.
"I have xyz trip coming up, xyz goal or deadline. .. yadda yadda" Talk about your life as it is now. Treat the other like a good friend you can just open up with.
"I've been told I'm sooo great.. but you're not getting me in the sack, so you'll just have to suffer"
etc
"are you being polite, or do you honestly want to know?" Sarcasm
"Well.. my morning's turning around. I am not usually a morning person. I came here, some people smiled at me and took interest. It's funny how that changes the whole day." Being human, that has to evoke something from the other person, you can spin off of that for more.
"I have xyz trip coming up, xyz goal or deadline. .. yadda yadda" Talk about your life as it is now. Treat the other like a good friend you can just open up with.
"I've been told I'm sooo great.. but you're not getting me in the sack, so you'll just have to suffer"
etc
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.