Scought said:
It can be a tough situation.
And, to be honest, a little oneitis is going to creep up no matter who you are.
I know the advice is to date other women, and that may work, however, we all meet one girl that is head and shoulders above the other women we are dating. It's impossible to not have more feelings for her, as she is hotter/funnier/easier to get along with, than the others.
The point, though, is to fight through it and realize there are tons of hot women everywhere, and that acting any different towards her, compared to others is a mistake.
Good view Scought. Seems like many posts here say if you think one girl is better than the others there is something wrong with you.
I think just actively fighting through it helps. An AFC would just dive in and lose themselves. I'm actually fighting through something like this. At least I'm aware of it though.
For me all I can do is remind myself indeed I do have options. I remind myself of all the successes I've had with women, big or small, and keep the perspective that while this girl may be special, there's nothing stopping me from meeting other girls that are just as, if not more, special.
It's kind of a fake it till you make it approach, but it's a start. Visualization. Thinking of abundance. See yourself talking to hot women, and women who are "special" like it's nothing. The more you do that, the more real it becomes in your mind.
Another thing is to find something you're passionate about, and just lose yourself in it. When you do that, you stop thinking of chicks. For me it's writing music, once I get in that zone, it's like I keep rediscovering something better than women.
See in posting here, I've just given myself a prescription for what it is that I HAVE to do.
