Rollo Tomassi said:
What you're failing to recognize is the mental aspect of
Spinning Plates. If you're exhausted and drained it's because you're over-extending yourself and putting too much effort into a particular girl (which borders on being a "try-hard").
When you're truly spinning plates, they will spin themselves for you. Let a woman's imaginations work for you, and let your own confidence flow from the knowledge that you have other options.
exactly, could'nt have said it better myself.. but I'm gonna try for the hell of it.
Right now I am....seeing 3 different women. One is a producer for a local TV station down here in SoCal, she's 33. right now she's in the lead for my services if I had to choose one, which I don't.
Another is a divorcee, who lives off her wealthy ex' alamony..she sits at home all day and calls me constantly.. I'm probably going to cut her off here soon, it's becoming too much of a hassle. She's 28 (guys, dont' get married)
The other works as a financial advisor... actually she's my financial advisor, it's how I met her. Something tells me it's not very prudent to fvck the woman who advises me how to invest my money on a long term basis.. but I digress. she's actaully pretty young considering and smart as a button (and hot) at 27.
I spend the most time with the first. We have like interests, and she fits my life perfectly. We both have lives that don't revolve around each other. Wehn I don't call he for 3 or so days she doesn't get her panties up in a bunch, she's busy living herself. I like that about her. She knows I see other women, I don't lie about it, but she always knows shes in the lead, and it's that knowing that keeps her on edge, that she can be replaced, although I don' twant to. If she calls at 10 at night and I don't answer, she wll leave a message and if I call her back or not, it's no big deal. She can take care of herself. Maybe 2 nights a week
the second...she calls me every other day. it's a strain. when it becomes a strain, you get replaced. She's smokin hot but that's about it. Too clingy and is trying the typical tame the guy moves that work for AFCs.. "i want to be with you", "lets settle down" (so I can get your money too).. and we just met 2 months ago. Every time I see her all it's about is when are we taking the next step. I'm out. I'm going to have a talk with her later today
The last one, I like her because it is purely SEX.. I love that about her. Shes a career woman, I'm always busy. one Saturday night out of the blue she just called me, and I thought I had lost some money or something, I mean, your financial adviser calls you on a Saturday night, what are you to think, and she comes out as blunt as possible and asks me to come over her house.. She knows i see someone else, I know it's not going to last, nor do I really want it to. we see enough of each other to to not miss each other, and not enough of each other to not get on each other's nerve. I don't have to take her out, low maintenance, etc.
the key is what i am getting at, is to not just spin plates randomly, but spin plates that fit your lifestyle. I can't deal with women who are clingy and want too much of my time. I can't deal with FRIENDS like that let alone love interest.
when your life revolves around the plates you are spinning, you are defeating the purpose of spinning plates
