How are most guys confident on default?

[backbreaker]

Telling yourself 1000 times (it's a lot) a day that you are 'confident, prize and the best thing to ever happen to a woman' IS NOT GONNA CUT IT!!!

If you are not a sociopath your brain knows you are lying.

You become confident when you do things you are afraid of and you don't die.

To do "dangerous" things without prior confidence you need something called COURAGE aka not being a pvssy.

Any psycho self-babble and affirmations are proven nonsense, especially for long run. The reason why they don't work is they bring attention to your shortcomings....you say "I am confident and prize" and your brain goes.."Why is he saying that? Maybe because he is missing these qualities...." See.

This is a great post but it's flawed as well.

Affirmations do work. The problem is, most people confuse affirmations with confidence.

A good affirmation is not "i am successful with women". nlol, other****er no you aren't. and your brain knows you are lying.

A good affirmation is for instance, "i learn form my mistakes". You do this enough and you subcionsly start to look for errors in the mistakes that you make.

you tell yourself that you know your hard work will pay off and you will subionsily try to push yourself to do more.


I am confident because i am the person i want to be. when i look in the mirror and dream about who I want to be it's the person I am now.

The closer you are to that person in the mirror that guy you dream about, the more confident you are.

The further you are from that person the more you start to look for reaffirmations from the opposite sex.

i could give a flying **** what any woman outside my fiancee,, or man for that matter, and hell sometimes she can get it too, thinks about me as I know what I think about myself. There are some things she tells me she wishes i would change, but it's who I am and it's who i want to be.

 

[Reckoning]

You get confident when you know you have high chances of success. You know you have high chances of success if you did it before or if everyone tells you that you can do it. So confidence usually comes on it's own if you have the qualities that are required to do something you want to do. If it's about dating a lot of chicks, no prob, you dated hot ones before, you can do it again. That's what it's all about.

 

[Just a Shot Away]

What would that criteria include?

Why not be confident of your looks? It gives you a instant advantage over the majority of men when attracting to the opposite sex.

The criteria for women revolves around the ability to provide for her and her young, and to protect the nest. Therefore, the traits that women look for in a mate include things like confidence, power, above-average muscle mass (indicating that the male can provide for himself, and thereby provide for the female), a dominating and aggressive personality, and in modern-times...money.

The reason that being of above-average physical attractiveness is no reason to be confident is because it does NOT provide an advantage over men who are not. I know this not only from personal experience, but also from observing the type of men that the most sought-after women go for.

 

[GetOveIT]

Self-esteem and confidence comes from you not others, not girls, not a new house or a car, IT comes from YOU.


All else will gravitate towards you.

 

[Nygard]

Self-esteem and confidence comes from you not others, not girls, not a new house or a car, IT comes from YOU.

If there's no water in the tank, and the water doesn't come from the outside, how does the tank fill? Having courage,"balls"? What if I don't have that? Am i doomed or something?