"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If I don't know what I did wrong? I had a date, it went well, and she calls me after the date. I waited four days to call her as I wanted to invite her to dinner. She only gave me her home number. Her mom answered and said she's in the shower and that she'll call me back, but of course that didn't happen.

It seems like she enjoyed herself and wouldn't mind seeing me again, but obviously I can't understand women worth ****. Either she isn't returning my call to see if I'll keep calling, or she had second thoughts.

I don't like making the same mistakes twice. It seems women are very good at cutting off all contact and leave the guy scratching his head.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dude why the hell would you wait FOUR days to call her back? I honestly believe thats a retarded thing ppl live by. If you took her out and she had a blast, she had such a good time that she calls/txts you after why are you going to wait for that feeling to cool down so you can call her again?
 

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thewarrior said:
If I don't know what I did wrong? I had a date, it went well, and she calls me after the date. I waited four days to call her as I wanted to invite her to dinner. She only gave me her home number. Her mom answered and said she's in the shower and that she'll call me back, but of course that didn't happen.

It seems like she enjoyed herself and wouldn't mind seeing me again, but obviously I can't understand women worth ****. Either she isn't returning my call to see if I'll keep calling, or she had second thoughts.

I don't like making the same mistakes twice. It seems women are very good at cutting off all contact and leave the guy scratching his head.
Same **** just happened to me. Except we had two dates. **** it, who knows. I'm nexting my girl unless she decides to get back to me. Which might happen.

Its pretty wierd that she would give you her house number, if she has a cell phone. I say don't call her anymore. Wait and see if she calls you. Maybe try again in a couple months, if you still feel like it at the point.
 

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Charm&Style said:
Dude why the hell would you wait FOUR days to call her back? I honestly believe thats a retarded thing ppl live by. If you took her out and she had a blast, she had such a good time that she calls/txts you after why are you going to wait for that feeling to cool down so you can call her again?
Agreed. I hate this rule, and never follow it myself. If things go well on the date, I'm sure she'll love the fact that you call her the next day.

If things DON'T go well on the date, and you try to call the next day. The same thing will happen than if you waited 4 days to call her again.

Just call whenever you feel like it, and you have stuff you wanna say! No waiting necessary.
 

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FIRST THING: Mom might not have given her the message. Mommy might want her to date her best friend's son Irving and not you. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

Secondly...
I HATE that "don't-call-for-3-days" game! I actually had a guy call and SAY to me :"I waited a couple days to call you, I didn't want to look desperate or anything. So, wanna go out?"

Call the girl! Tell her you're picking her up Saturday morning to go hiking or what ever.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Okay I lied, I did call her the next day.

The first time I called, her mother answered and said she was sleep. It was pretty late so that was believable. I waited two more days and called again, much earlier and her mother said she was in the shower.

It's not much I can do since I can't call her directly.
 
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DonutMan said:
Same **** just happened to me. Except we had two dates. **** it, who knows. I'm nexting my girl unless she decides to get back to me. Which might happen.

Its pretty wierd that she would give you her house number, if she has a cell phone. I say don't call her anymore. Wait and see if she calls you. Maybe try again in a couple months, if you still feel like it at the point.
I won't call her anymore, and definitely won't be bothered in two months.
 
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