how am I doing? Any suggestions?

[jetsfan05]

I would like to begin this with saying that I have been visiting this site a little over a year, and it has helped tremendously. Much kudos to this site for inspiring to go out and get what I want.

I have a current situation I would like to describe with you, and I would like you to tell me how am I doing.

I'm a junior in high school, and the girl of interest is a freshman (easy pickings, you'll surely say). Well, after one our FCA meetings today, we had to move some tables and chairs in preparation for a banquet tomorrow night.

First of all, this girl has always been very "friendly" with me, and we're always flirting back and forth. Well today, when we were in one of the back storage rooms, we were flirting (as usual), and I grabbed her around the waist and pulled her to me. We were nose to nose. Well she asked me what I was going to do....now wanting to mix things up a bit I looked her in the eyes and said, "Not today, baby". I then let go of her and walked back out to where everyone else was. We talked a little more that day on and off before we (us and everyone else at the meeting) said goodbye and went home.

So, do you think what I did was a good move? And what do you think I should do the next time I see her, or get into a similar situation like the one stated above? Your comments and tips are appreciated!

 

[AC/DC]

Very good!

You probably upset her, she probably wanted to kiss you. I would have kissed her and left her with a warm feeling of happiness.

But you did what you did; let's build on it.

Try to get her outside of school, and talk to her for a little bit, but NOT about yourselves. Sit close to her, make sure your breath smells nice and fresh.

Give her a hug when it feels right, hold on to her, look her in the eyes, and kiss her. Kiss her for a few seconds, and see how she reacts. If she doesn't freak out for whatever reason, you're in.

 

[jetsfan05]

I did it to build her anticipation for the "big moment", so to speak. Is that a good idea in this case?

 

[SynapsyS]

My first impression was that this might have been a little harsh. But, you didn't say what her reaction to this was. Give us a bit more info on that, we might be able to help a little more.

This isn't something I would have done. Now, that "I" isn't a generalism for "everyone", so don't read it as that . But, it's not my style to do that style of kino, unless i'm already dating the girl. However, I'm not you .

I think you could have handled it better, as the response didn't quite match the question. I can't think of a better, more witty way of responding to it at the moment (again, not my style, so It's a bit hard for me to conceptualise), but in all, it seems to me like you're doing a good job so far.

Try to get her outside of school

What he said

So, post her reaction to what you did, and if you see her again, let us know how it went

Syn.

 

[jetsfan05]

after I said it, she followed me back out to the main "open area", and talked and flirted some more. She didn't seem to get upset, she just kept on acting the way she was doing before. She would look at me and smile quite a bit, and all that sort of thing.

I just figured if she wanted to kiss me (she did ), I would make her wait a little while longer, until the sexual tension was super high...

 

[SynapsyS]

Remember though, there will be a point where the tension drops off. You have to get the timing right, or she'll write you off as "that flirty guy", instead of potential partner.

Good luck.

 

[chill]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
he is completely right

i did stuff like that with one girl i was into, but i waited too long and eventualy she got frustrated and stopped liking me. i even talked with a mutual friend and she said there was a week long period where she was crazy about me, but she eventual began to question herself and later gave up and moved on. so while i think it was a pretty good move, dont delay too long or your gonna skrew yourself over.

 

[jetsfan05]

is Monday too late you think?

 

[jetsfan05]

well finally, today was the day I kissed her.

And I must say, it was a big success. We made out twice, and of course we exhanged numbers. So hooray for me!

Thanks for all the help guys!

 

[Morphiex]

heeey good job mate =)

 

[True Wolf]

I'd say you are doing just fine man!

Suggestion: Keep it up!

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by Morphiex
heeey good job mate =)

:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

 

[jetsfan05]

Update: Things are getting weird. We became boyfriend and girlfriend this last week, but she's been pissing me off pretty badly.

We were gonna hang out on Friday, and she was going to go (this was Tuesday), but then I found out she made plans on Thursday night to go to one of her friend's house. (she didn't know that I knew about this)

I didn't say anything about this. But I let her know I wasn't happy about her ditching us (my friends were going too)

Then we went to a basketball game on Thursday (where we made out once before the game). She had to work the concession stand, but after she was done she wouldn't come sit with me, and when I asked her why, she wouldn't talk to me. So I said, "Whatever" or something to that extent.

I heard from one of her friends that she doesn't feel any magic, and that we don't ever talk.....I kinda think that she thinks I juat want her for the sexuality of it all , but I disgress. Friday we talked a little bit, but she didn't sit with us or talk to us at an assembly we had in 4th block.

She knows I'm pissed at her, and she knows I'm tired of her games. I'm planning on dumping her on Monday, but I wanted to ask you guys for suggestions.

Any ideas on what I should do?

 

[MightyMate]

Well. She can get mad because You are waiting. You should kiss her and have stuff done instead of playing games and saying 'not today'.

 

[dirtyvibe]

Originally posted by jetsfan05
Update: Things are getting weird. We became boyfriend and girlfriend this last week, but she's been pissing me off pretty badly.

We were gonna hang out on Friday, and she was going to go (this was Tuesday), but then I found out she made plans on Thursday night to go to one of her friend's house. (she didn't know that I knew about this)

I didn't say anything about this. But I let her know I wasn't happy about her ditching us (my friends were going too)

Then we went to a basketball game on Thursday (where we made out once before the game). She had to work the concession stand, but after she was done she wouldn't come sit with me, and when I asked her why, she wouldn't talk to me. So I said, "Whatever" or something to that extent.

I heard from one of her friends that she doesn't feel any magic, and that we don't ever talk.....I kinda think that she thinks I juat want her for the sexuality of it all , but I disgress. Friday we talked a little bit, but she didn't sit with us or talk to us at an assembly we had in 4th block.

She knows I'm pissed at her, and she knows I'm tired of her games. I'm planning on dumping her on Monday, but I wanted to ask you guys for suggestions.

Any ideas on what I should do?

id give her another chance, like invite her out somewhere and try and go further than making out, if you are both 18. if she doesnt then id dump her

 

[jetsfan05]

Going further than making out....why does that sound like it would HURT my current situation?

She says we never talk, but when I try to talk to her, she ignores me......

 

[jetsfan05]

I wasn't at school today, but I heard that one of her friends (one of my exes, nonetheless) told her that she should break up with me, and she replied with "I'm thinking about it". What now?

Next her quick?

 

[KaminoSS]

dump her before she dumps you