"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How am I doing, and where should I go from here...

shark

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Theres this girl i like, hung out with her for the 2nd time tonight. First time we chilled and tonight I teased her a good amount. I stopped the teasing at end of night when she said i was mean, but then we made up. We used "kino" as we were kinda touchy, wrestling and fooling around.

Thing is, she was kinda like this with my other 2 friends (one girlfriend, one whos single). Advantage I have?? Well she only called me and texted me yesterday to make sure we were chilling.

I teased her a litttle about liking me and stuff and taking everything too fast (ofcourse kidding) and she just kinda teased me back.

Now i'd like to make things clear that us two are hooking up...between us. Do I just talk to her normally? or mention somtin? Where do i go from here to seal the deal?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Fitch

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Your doing great. Its in your hands!

Be direct about it your feelings, ask her out.

Females love a few qualities, we men have.

Our frankness, and our "laid back" mentality.

Tell me how it goes. I am acually in a similar situation, however I think my girl just acts that way with everyone. Thus, I am waiting for the oppurtune moment. As of right now, I know she won't go for me. Not yet..
 

shark

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Thanks but idk if i really wanna go out with her...i kinda just want to h/u with her. hah..basically i wanna be "with" her...so idk how to ask her out. I NEVER asked out a girl. It's usually like the girls friends or the girl asks and i say yeah ok and we h/u and thats it. So hmm..idk how to get into the convo by starting it w/out soudning weird

me: hey
her: hey
me: whats up
her: nothing..you
me: same
me: u have fun last nite?
her: yeah it was pretty good
me: _______?????___????

Hmm..i feel like such a puss.
 

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Ask if she is up for another night. Don't consider it as a date. Spend time with her, it will end up into one.

At the end of this "date" look into her eyes, have a conversation and you will know what to do.

Trust your instinct. Our predessors benefited from this barbaric concept, now it's your turn.

It works wonders. It beats planning and overthinking things.

Just set up a casual date, and let it build up.

If you want to "hook up" it might screw up the relationship. Dating is a different story, however.
 
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