Heres the deal... i started working at this new store that opened up recently. And the first person to say hi was this girl. she too sexy! not too sexy for me in general, but shes too sexy for me not to hook up with her. anyway, shell walk by for no reason at all just to say hi ands smile.. i know shes just trying to feel me out at the moment.. its too early to start my game. i have 3 questions.. im wondering if anybody has any tips in general. neg hits good at this point? what should i look for about signs of approval? bad boy or nice guy type situation? Any tips or advice, from experience would be kool too.. thanx
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Hottie @ Work
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
tsmith2334
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if your ever closing with each other, ask her if she wants to grab a bite to eat after work
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sounds like she kinda digs you... I'd keep her laughing and be flirty the whole time you work around her, and then strike when the iron is hot.
Getting a crush on a girl at work is not a good idea. As they say where there is smoke you might get fired.
Just think with your larger brain for a moment. You make a play for her just because she smiled at you and got you all riled up like a school boy chump.
She was only smiling because at work it's a friendly atmosphere and she thought she could relax her guard for just a moment. Then blam some geek hits on her.
Now she has to reject him and it messes up the work environment. Now she has to look at his dumb behind everday she goes to work.
Put yourself inside their heads for a change. Women know that only idiots fool around at work. Even though some do succumb to this stupidity, they do mostly use their heads instead of thinking with the wrong brains (pubic areas).
It amazes me how many men cannot control their urges in a professional environment.
I read about some kind of psychological thing happens when you see someone 8 hours or often a day. You develop a liking for them. Then the stupidity sets in and boom.
Workforce mayhem.
Just think with your larger brain for a moment. You make a play for her just because she smiled at you and got you all riled up like a school boy chump.
She was only smiling because at work it's a friendly atmosphere and she thought she could relax her guard for just a moment. Then blam some geek hits on her.
Now she has to reject him and it messes up the work environment. Now she has to look at his dumb behind everday she goes to work.
Put yourself inside their heads for a change. Women know that only idiots fool around at work. Even though some do succumb to this stupidity, they do mostly use their heads instead of thinking with the wrong brains (pubic areas).
It amazes me how many men cannot control their urges in a professional environment.
I read about some kind of psychological thing happens when you see someone 8 hours or often a day. You develop a liking for them. Then the stupidity sets in and boom.
Workforce mayhem.
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
I like your attitudebmjc said:
Yep, I'd suggest right now just being friendly, playing it off like her advances or whatever you want to call them aren't making you particularly interested
I wouldn't, as you said she is hot, but not too hot. I'd definately qualify her though (ie "Are you a nice girl? I only like to hang out with nice girls...")
From my experience, at work, I'd interpret signs of interest as:
-If she comes around your department for no real purpose except to talk to you, and stays too long. That's pretty obvious.
-Laughs at your dumb jokes
-Touches you
- Most of all - if she just gives you those eyes where you can tell she likes you. That was always my "Go" signal
I suppose it depends on the girl, but I think it's always better off to be mysterious, and the "bad boy" type (but only if it is consistent with your personality)
Well, if you're in a career or something like that, "don't get laid where you get paid" is a considerable mantra. However, it sounds like this is just a job for you, so I say "mack away". I survived at my last job (that I didn't really give a shit about) for 1.5 years, dating a multitude of girls from my job, without getting fired. However, there were a few departments where I wasn't exactly welcome...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.