"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hottie at the gym

Broham

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Hey all-

There's this really cute girl that just started working at my gym. Last night, I asked her to have coffee sometime and she gave me her number. She casually mentioned she had a b/f so I said we'll just talk. hehe I honestly think I can bag her since I'm 23 (just grad college) and she's 18 (still in hs). I know this may sound bad but I drive a nice car and that obviously never hurts. But I think I have charmed her so far. Here's what I need for advice: Should I ask her to have coffee tomorrow night or is that too soon? If I do, should I invite her out this weekend? She said theres nothing to do in her town and she seems pretty bored. This prolly isn't gonna be an LTR since I'd get a ton of sh*t from my family since she's young. But the booty is beckoning.


thanks,

ham
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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HuuBinh

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the girls seems to be really interested, you can call her up whenever you want. since you dont want an ltr, i'd advise you to close the deal asap, you can do a bunch of mini activities right after coffe, don't waste a lot time by going on many dates especially weekends, bang her on the first date if you can.
 

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Ham, Ham, Ham...

One step at a time...

It may not be too soon to go to coffee this week. Just depends on the situation...

I meet chicks at the gym all the time. I usually bring up the fact that I'm hungery, or need a smoothy. (I work out in the evening, so coffee at 7:00p is a little late). So, ask to get a quick bite or a smoothy.

She told you she is bored on the week-ends? To me, that's some high IL! She's basically said "I don't have anything to do this week-end". BF? I doubt it. If so, and she's bored, he won't be around forever.

Just don't jump too quick. Do the coffee thing. I'd make plans for your self NOW, and while at coffee mention them to her. If she seems at all interested, invite her. (I gotta see whatever movie this week-end...) KNow of anything she might be interested in?

Don't worry about what your family thinks. How are they gonna know anyway? My mom has never approved of any woman I dated and never will. So I don't tell her. Dude, you're a grown up now and your hottie is of legal age. No problem...
 

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Reto, man good advice. I actually work until 7 on Thursdays, and go to the gym after. She gets out at 9, so I figure I can do a few errands before she gets out. Provided the coffee date goes well, I think I'll invite her bowling (up for suggestions) cuz theres not many places she can go at that age. I'm thinking possibly a club. We'll see what happens. I'll see her tonight, I'll mack a little but not too much since I don't want to come off like an AFC.
 

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Bowling sounds good...No clubs though. Too many single guys there... If she works out, she's some what athletic. Bowling, min golf..., a buddy of mine told me about this local go-cart place. Expensive, but fun...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A pool hall/movie combo goes very well for dates like this. Depending on how uninhibited you are, as well as how good you or her can play pool, it could lead into rapport, neg-hit, kino galore (bowling goes well to, though I think pool is less expensive). Also, check out for any comic stand-up events for your city. And, of course, no clubs. They're too hectic for first dates.
 
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