"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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'Hot'? Why bother?

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It's no surprise that alot of the discussion on this board is focused on looks, and why not? Looks are the first thing we notice about someone and form a large part of our opinion about them.

BUT I think sometimes people here get a little obsessed with only striving for the most striking girls they can find (viz the whole HB system) and they forget that, not only is it superficial, it's beyond superficial because it's only focused on a few aspects of a girls appearance.

Basically, what makes a girl 'hot' is how much time/money she spends on clothes, hair, and makeup - in other words, things that only matter to people who don't spend much time with her.

I'm not saying that there's no difference between girls who take care of themselves and girls who don't, but for every single girl I've dated, 95% of their differences disappeared when they took their clothes off.

Just something to keep in mind.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What about a good body and a nice tight ass? That's what I'm talking about.
 

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Yapper said:
What about a good body and a nice tight ass? That's what I'm talking about.
That's what i'm saying. My girlfriends were kind of frumpy to look at but once the glasses and bras came off their tight asses and firm tits were very much in evidence.
 

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To paraphrash Deangelo and flip things to the man's side: You're assuming we can decide not to be attracted to hot girls and rather be attracted to not-so-hot girls.

I'm certainly not going to make the effort with girls I'm not attracted to. Sure I might get sex, but being with someone you feel is hot makes you feel good in a lot of other aspects. Sure you might not *need* them to feel good, but it helps.

However, I do agree with the whole make-up stuff. It's amazing how average a lot of hot girls look in the morning.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You're absolutely right brother. They all look the same naked.

Give me a playful, confident girl who's wit can keep me on my toes and it doesn't matter if she's a 5 or a 9.9. (no uggos or fatsos though, sorry)
 

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I guess the reputation of dating a 'hot' girl is what drives most of this...
 

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WHAT?!?

Like you said, we are men and men are attracted primarily to looks. Now, I, along with most, do still want a girl thats got the best personality I can find too. But to say its superficial to strive for the best looking woman I can find, to me, is BS. Whats wrong with looking for the "whole package." If I like 10's...then I like 10's....reputation has nothing to do with it. And I'm not even going to entertain the "girls look the same naked" statement...you should know better.

Here's something to think about....say a guy is a chubby chaser. Hypothetically speaking, his 10 would be a 6 to the rest of us. Now, is he still superficial?
 

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Women all look the same with their cloths off?

I think maybe you are trying to rationalize because you can not get attractive women. I only ever sleep with 10s and sometimes 9s, I found that recently I just can not get hard for anything below 8.

When a woman takes off her cloths and she has perfectly sculptured breasts and a toned, tight ass I like that. When a woman takes off her cloths and she has saggy breasts and cellulite on her ass I do not like it.
 

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NickBe said:
Women all look the same with their cloths off?

I think maybe you are trying to rationalize because you can not get attractive women. I only ever sleep with 10s and sometimes 9s, I found that recently I just can not get hard for anything below 8.

When a woman takes off her cloths and she has perfectly sculptured breasts and a toned, tight ass I like that. When a woman takes off her cloths and she has saggy breasts and cellulite on her ass I do not like it.
You missed the point rather neatly. In MY experience - and maybe it's been different for the rest of you - but girls with thick glasses and bland sweaters are simply concealing their hot bodies, rather than covering up their defects. That's all.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah put a bag over their head and they're ready to go.
 

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Leporello said:
You missed the point rather neatly. In MY experience - and maybe it's been different for the rest of you - but girls with thick glasses and bland sweaters are simply concealing their hot bodies, rather than covering up their defects. That's all.
Oh ok so you are telling us to go for hot women with no fashion sense? Well thats not shallow is it?

You are only shallow if you go for women who dress nicely.

What are you trying to say exactly? That we should not go for women who do not care about their appearance?
 

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Leporello said:
95% of their differences disappeared when they took their clothes off.
You're targeting the wrong sort of women mate !! Raise the bar, go for the top. You deserve perfection.

Anyway, if you don't want to date these hot women others will - like me !!
 

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For me i'll **** a "hot" chick any day of the week, but if i'm looking for a relationship then it will take an attractive girl with a cool personlity to keep my interest. If a chick is just hot and no persoanlity she'll remain a **** buddy until the girl who meets my standards comes my way.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There are alot of "undiscovered" girls out there that just don't reallize how hot they are. I've had a good few that i'd flirt w for kicks and realized they were really hotties undercover. One of them is now a model from what i've heard last.
 

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KnockoutJM said:
I go a step further.. put a flag over their head and do it for the country
LOL ^
....you can use this line along with the flag...."if you dont do me, the terrorists win"
 
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