I've known this for a long time, but being hot is a lot like being a celebrity. It has it's upsides and it has it's downsides.
Positives:
-beautiful women want to sleep with you
-you're treated preferentially pretty much everywhere you go, especially if you are dealing with women
-you are constantly being praised and flattered because of your appearance
Negatives
-people are often begging for a photo
-men are hostile to good looking men since they are such a strong sexual threat
-women who are insecure become hostile or overly anxious
I am reminded of these benefits and inconveniences every week.
This past week I was working with a contractor which had a lot of female employees. These women were constantly hitting on me, many asking for photos, they stopped working to come chat with me which interrupted my work as well. It just became a circus especially since I couldn't avoid them.
Men and women are simply not designed to work together outside of the family unit. This is especially true when very good looking people are around.
But the point is, once you get to this elite level, you have access to scarce resources and a higher quality of life that other people can only dream about. However, you have to pay the price in stress, constant and excessive attention and many people who won't personal boundaries, along with people who feel threatened and react in a hostile manner.
There is a lot of stress involved when you are hot. It is not insignificant. It is a real thing. But I'm going to do my best to try to minimize them. I am not going to accept all of these negatives lying down anymore.
So, next time you hit on the that very hot chick, if she turns you down, it's not personal. She will probably try to be polite and diplomatic, but then again, if she's dealt with too many clowns dog whistling from their cars, or if she's dealt with one too many guys who are ridiculously, overly persistent, she just might bite back. Not because you're a terrible dude, but because the stress and frustration has built up within too short of a period of time to allow it to defuse on it's own naturally.
Likewise, if I have to deal with too many undesirable women or gay guys hitting on me, I just might snap and go off. I really, really try to avoid this, but it can get to be too much.
But yeah, I think I need stricter boundaries with women who are just flat-out harassing me and totally disregard personal boundaries.
Positives:
-beautiful women want to sleep with you
-you're treated preferentially pretty much everywhere you go, especially if you are dealing with women
-you are constantly being praised and flattered because of your appearance
Negatives
-people are often begging for a photo
-men are hostile to good looking men since they are such a strong sexual threat
-women who are insecure become hostile or overly anxious
I am reminded of these benefits and inconveniences every week.
This past week I was working with a contractor which had a lot of female employees. These women were constantly hitting on me, many asking for photos, they stopped working to come chat with me which interrupted my work as well. It just became a circus especially since I couldn't avoid them.
Men and women are simply not designed to work together outside of the family unit. This is especially true when very good looking people are around.
But the point is, once you get to this elite level, you have access to scarce resources and a higher quality of life that other people can only dream about. However, you have to pay the price in stress, constant and excessive attention and many people who won't personal boundaries, along with people who feel threatened and react in a hostile manner.
There is a lot of stress involved when you are hot. It is not insignificant. It is a real thing. But I'm going to do my best to try to minimize them. I am not going to accept all of these negatives lying down anymore.
So, next time you hit on the that very hot chick, if she turns you down, it's not personal. She will probably try to be polite and diplomatic, but then again, if she's dealt with too many clowns dog whistling from their cars, or if she's dealt with one too many guys who are ridiculously, overly persistent, she just might bite back. Not because you're a terrible dude, but because the stress and frustration has built up within too short of a period of time to allow it to defuse on it's own naturally.
Likewise, if I have to deal with too many undesirable women or gay guys hitting on me, I just might snap and go off. I really, really try to avoid this, but it can get to be too much.
But yeah, I think I need stricter boundaries with women who are just flat-out harassing me and totally disregard personal boundaries.