"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hot or not accurate for older guys?

lord_mike

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By older, I mean 33. I hope not, 'cos I finally put up a couple of pics that a couple girls liked, and the ratings... well... they are less than stellar--between 5 and 6 and dropping fast as more people vote.

Considering that your real number is actually 2 points lower than your "hot or not" rating, this isn't good (being a three would suck arse), but explains a lot of my struggles in this post-divorce dating world.

So, answer honestly whether "hot or not" is accurate. I can take it!

Thanks,

Mike
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Walden

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Dude you are only as hot or as old as the last girl you f***ed.
 

penkitten

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want a better hot or not score?

just keep giving yourself a 10 and keep rating the others as 1's.



now , do you think the scores are right?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Does HotOrNot ever actually help a person's self esteem?
 

Big Pappy

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Hot or Not? Are you kidding me? Is it accurate? No. They add 2 points, so that should tell you something. Not everyone is photogenic, either. I take a horrible picture. I know that without question I'm a point and a half or so higher in person than in picture.

Some people vote 1's on everybody that's not the same race, or someone they know. There's a great deal of bias in that algorythym. Pay no mind to it. And remove your picture from it and go out in public and ask some girls to rate you.

Remember, it's about how you feel about who you are.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Big Pappy
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Some people vote 1's on everybody that's not the same race, or someone they know. ...
Now that is just plain wrong. Are we that fvcked up? Stop the world, I wanna get off!
 

Marcopolo

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What I think hot or not is good for is if you want to do the online dating thing, like Match.com, is if you want to know if the photo you think is good will help or hurt your chances. I found out there is a lot of variation in different photos of the same person, so this is why it is good so you can put your best ones on Match or whatever and kow that they are the best instead of just making an educated guess.
And they do not automatically give everyone two extra points. Your rating is baed on a curve, and is a percentile ranking of you compared to everyone else. Part f the reason they do this is to actually quantify what a "1" or a "10" is, because otherwise one persons "3" is another persons "5", even if they each think the person they are rating is equally good looking, make sense?
It is not scientific, but still there are ways to get a more accurate rating. If a larger number of people rate you than one idiot giving you a one is goig to be much less significant, and you will get a more accurate overall score if 100 or 200 people rate you rather than 15 or 20. My .02
 

Gipper

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Godd@mmit, I get sick of this $hit pretty quickly.

Never, ever, look at "hotornot" again. It doesn't matter.

If you are confident in yourself, know the basics of approaching women, and can carry on a reasonable conversation, you will succeed. Period.

Get your f*cking a$$ away from the computer, talk to a girl, and quit worrying about your "rating" so much. Geez.

"Frustrated" Gipper
 
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