bunch of nervous nellies in this thread. dood. understand this...the older you get, the more you are gonna run into chicks with kids. At my age its the norm.
First off...what do you want from this girl? Do you want a one night stand? **** buddies, or a long term relationship. You sound like you want a relationship or its headed that way. If so..I would say don't go there.
ONS and FB's single moms are great for these. They usually are very busy and don't have time for much else unless you are planning to play house with them.
Never fall into the provider, step dad/boyfriend role with these women. Unless you are ready to commit to that, don't play like that. My personal rule is this..if she is pushing the kid on me soon after we meet, I'm out. I usually sort this out before hand by saying this "I'm a father, and your a mother, I'm not looking for a mother for my child, I'm looking for somene to spend quality adult time with and have fun. I don't believe children should meet someone until it's serious, I don't want to damage a child by bringing people in and out of his/her life". Either she gets the hint or she doesn't. If she doesn't she has disqualified herself.
Use the same sexual precautions you would use with any other girl. Guywhoneedshelp really needs help it seems. Most girls aren't up for abortions buddy. Get over it.
At your age, you probably can find a lot of girls who don't have kids. So go look around. I suggest if you are still AFC or have a lot of afc still in you....steer clear. You might not be ready yet for a woman with kids. You have to understand you will never be number one in her life. Which is great for ONS or FB. But for a relationship...its not that great. I'm watching several buddies who are married to women with kids by previous relationships and its not what they thought it was going to be.
Check the mature man forum about dating women with kids. They can give you some valuable insight.