"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hot girl pulled up tight pants after glancing back at me at post office. Was she interested?

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I have always wondered if a girl pulling up her pants especially if they are tight pants after she sees a guy is a sign that she thinks the guy is attractive or the opposite.

Today I was at the post office and a hot girl wearing tight pants looked back making eye contact with me and then proceeded to pull her pants up.

I'm basically an average-looking guy like most men in that some women find me attractive and some don't so I'm not sure what to make of it.

I'm sure it has happened to other guys reading so I'm just curious to hear what you think.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She's advertising her shape and wants to look her best at all times when around men. It could mean she's available. Only one way to find out.…
Approach her.
 
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She was with a guy so I didn't approach her.
 

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I generally adjust my wardrobe or hair when in public, more so when a cute guy is around
 

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Only one way to find out.…
Approach her.
Good advice. Just approach and say anything, to get into the habit of "test and find out" instead of "ask and see what people say."

You'll have a good idea which one it is by how she responds.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah, as I mentioned I couldn't approach her because a guy was with her. Sure, the guy could have been her brother but odds are it was her significant other.
 

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I don't know, though. Sure, she could have done it because she found me attractive but she also could have done it because she was self-conscious.
It's just one of those things where you don't know how to interpret it.
 

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It's just one of those things where you don't know how to interpret it.
Life is full of them. Trivial stuff like that. Best to only give your brain power to the important things.
I usually find instances like that amusing, then throw the thought away.
I'm not the amazing Kreskin
 
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Yeah, as I mentioned I couldn't approach her because a guy was with her. Sure, the guy could have been her brother but odds are it was her significant other.
Approach anyway.

The fact that you don't care that there's another guy there could increase her interest level. For all you know he could've been her wallet or her beta boy.

If all else fails just smile and back out smoothly, don't get ruffled by her or the guy.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I couldn't approach her because a guy was with her. Sure, the guy could have been her brother but odds are it was her significant other.
What odds? What objective sources and data did you use to make that call? It sounds like an unsupported claim.

Was she interested? Maybe. Did she just want attention? Maybe. Was she not interested at all? Maybe. You will never find out unless you approach. If a woman is with a guy, it's very simple to find out their relationship. You walk up to her and ask in a casual tone "Hi, I noticed you from the other side of the room. Is this your boyfriend?"

If she's attracted to you, the guy will be "just a friend" or even if they have sexual history, but not an exclusive relationship, she'll respond well. If she doesn't like you, she'll say it's actually her boyfriend, regardless of whether it's true or false. And, of course, if the guy is her boyfriend then she may tell you loud and clear that he is her man.

If you're worried about conflict and/or violence in the event the dude turns out to be her boyfriend and he becomes aggressive, just say "whoops, my bad man" and walk away. Case closed.
 
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