"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hot girl I know moved away...

Telurn

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This girl I know moved away for about a year just as I was getting to know her...we never actually hung out because i met her about a week before she was moving. she is coming back however in a little less than a year though..I have her number and want to contact her but would this come off as awkward or desperate?

the reason i want to contact her soon is because she is going to japan and will probably disconnect her phone since it wont work there..and when she comes back she may have a new number...

i havent talked to her since she left, what can i say (ill probably just send her a text) to let her know that she needs to make sure to give me a call when she comes back to the area? the reason i dont want to give this one up is because she seemed really cool even though i barely knew her, but if theres no way to avoid sounding too desperate ill have to move along.. what are your thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KontrollerX

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Move along dude.

Its a chump move to wait around for a chick you barely even knew to come back after a year.

Only a desperate man without options would even consider it.

Besides if you made any worthwhile impression on her at all it will be she who contacts you and not the other way around.

Her contacting you shows that she is definitely interested in you.

Her forgetting you just means that you are just another guy she met and someone she views as nobody special.
 

Pathgen

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I agree with KontrollerX about not waiting around for her, but i would just like to add that i think you should send that text. Who cares if she responds or not or even if she thinks your desperate? Its some chick that is going to the other end of the world and there are plenty more like her. She is moving to Japan and i can tell your gut is telling you to do something.

Send the text or maybe even call. You have nothing to lose in my book. However, don't put your life on hold while you wait for her. Date other women and see if she does give you that call when she gets back.

I guess what im saying is plant the seed, but don't look to check if it grows into anything. Every shot you don't take is a shot missed =D
 

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Thanks for the input. like pathgen kind of stated, i'm not waiting around for her...i mean id like her to contact me and all because id like that chance to get to know her, but i am definately not putting anything or anyone on hold, i still go on dates and i dont sit here gameplanning what i am going to do if i am able to run into her again....to sum it up id like to contact her but if you guys feel its a chump move then i honestly have no problem just movin things along.

i feel like it is what it is...she seemed like a cool girl and i personally think that if i found a cool chick and shes comin back, thats one more chick to add to my collection (eventually).
 

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Kontroller X hit dat nail on da head. If I were you, send the text. Don't overdo it. If she doesn't respond, just move on. Don't make her your oneitis. Game other hot chicks...there's some hotter than her, I know it and I know you can do it!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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