hot chick was interested, then she wasnt and now?

[pyros]

Met this HB7.5 three weeks ago in a salsa club. I asked for her facebook, she also offered her number.
Some days alter, I chatted with her on FB chat. It was fun, she asked me if I was gonna be at the same salsa club next Friday, I said yes, we agreed to meet there with our friends. She also said that she did not have a salsa partner so I offered myself so she could try a lesson, so we agreed to go next Tuesday.
Friday came and she did not show up at the club, neither she texted me or anything. I said nothing. Tuesday came and she did not mention anything about going to that salsa lesson she wanted to try, so again, I said nothing.

Three weeks have passed and today she commented my silly FB status. Then we had a small conversation and that was it.
Following my 2 strikes rule, she did not show up last Friday when she was suposed to come with her friends (strike 1), and she did not talk about that salsa lesson we agreed to attend together the following Tuesday (strike 2), so because all of this I haven't asked her out again neither I have contacted her.

Today, because she does not have her FWB or becuase she was bored who knows, she contacted me...well, she just commented my status.

what would you do?
do I ask her out? (Im not willing to, really, cause she seems to have very low interest. And in my experience when a girl shows very little interest it is better to display the same low interest)


Thanks.

 

[rascal99v]

Met this HB7.5 three weeks ago in a salsa club. I asked for her facebook, she also offered her number.

Some days alter, I chatted with her on FB chat.

Why are you asking for her facebook when you can get her number instead? :crazy:

What is a facebook chat going to do better to help get you laid? Nothing.

Stay off facebook with these chicks you meet. Facebook doesn't help you get laid when you add chicks as friends. it makes you just "one of the other guys" that she ignores as beta rovers. They roam her page clicking "like" to all her pictures telling her how hot she is. She uses those dudes as her fan club for self validation. Don't be that guy. Be the dude she wants to bang. Being a virtual facebook friend isn't going to drop her panties for you. Game her over the phone and in person like a man.

When she has low interest, you showing low interest too, isn't going to change anything. Her low interest is still going to be there no matter what you do. Because she doesn't care.

Why aren't you talking to her on the phone? You are just a virtual facebook friend with her now. I see low IL here, but get her on the phone and see what happens. If you see the same low IL right away, then she isn't interested.

Don't add chicks as friends on facebook anymore. There is no reason to when you can game them over the phone. All that does is makes you a virtual fan club friend.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

"Met this HB7.5 three weeks ago in a salsa club. I asked for her facebook, she also offered her number."

Mistake number one: asking for the FB is weak - it signals you don't have the ballz to ask for the number, so you're going to try and make this thing work by backdooring your interest and getting in via message chatting. Lame. Stronger move is to ALWAYS ask for the number - if they don't give it to you, GREAT! It's a fantastic way to figure out she has low interest early on.


"Some days alter, I chatted with her on FB chat."

Mistake number two: no random chatting via messaging, texting or phone conversation. The purpose of contacting a girl is to get the DATE so you can do your chatting with her in person.


"...she asked me if I was gonna be at the same salsa club next Friday, I said yes..."

Mistake number three and four: for girls you're taking out for the first time, weekend dates should NOT be on the plate. Those days are typically for already-established couples, so she could get the feeling that you're already thinking of her as the girlfriend when she hasn't earned that spot yet. Also, by telling her you'd be at the salsa club next Friday you've now made her think you're predictable ("He must go there every Friday") and thus, boring.

"We agreed to meet there with our friends."

Mistake number five: meeting her friends shouldn't happen until you've got at least 90 days in with her and her feelings for you have been established. Before then, you have potential blockers that could swipe in and try to take her, or in the case of her friends, you have people who can place judgement on you and give a negative opinion of you to her, which could sway her opinion early on since she's known them longer than she knows you.


"Friday came and she did not show up at the club, neither she texted me or anything."

I'm not surprised - you didn't really set a date, it just sounds like you both said you sort of wanted to meet up and might possibly do it on Friday at the club... but ultimately, you didn't set up a DATE. A meeting up with her friends and your friends to a salsa club on a Friday isn't a DATE, it's a hang out. You should have CALLED her up, asked her if she was free on either Wednesday or Thursday, and asked her for a proper DATE.


"What would you do?"

At this point I'd assume low interest because I screwed up... but, I'd give it one last try by CALLING her up, asking if she was free on either Wednesday or Thursday, and ask her on a proper DATE.

Hope this helps!

 

[Maximus Rex]

Not to Hate, But

Y'all need to stop giving advice pyros because dude doesn't listen and to respond to him is literally a waste of time. Rex has no idea why he remembers this, but potna was having the same problem with chicks six months ago, broads that suddenly get a lack of interest. The equivalent would be Rex complaining about not meeting a lot of women and coming on her complaining about T.H.Y.C.E.A.C. doesn't have Rex in her friend zone "but a higher special place," and somebody kindly reminding Rex,"Well, Rex. You're having these problems because your own self admitted approach anxiety and your oneitis involving T.H.Y.C.E.A.C.. Maybe if you approach more women you'd have a better result.

Dude, until you get more in field experience, you're going to keep having these problems. Hell, you don't even holla at chicks in salsa clubs, your source of females only seem to be salsa class and salsa seems to be a crutch for you. You need to get out of "salsa class comfort zone." If I were taking salsa lessons, I'd be at the salsa club hollerin' at the Spanish mamis. Seriously though dude, if you aren't trying to press your own personal boundaries, then why are you here?

 

[pyros]

Hi.

I've met different chicks in salsa clubs whom I banged. Some of them go ok, others don't.

Yes, I feel comfortable in the salsa scene, because 1 I dance good, 2 I know many people there, and 3 there are new girls coming every weekend.
I do not understand why I should return to bars and clubs where I did not stand out, I felt awkward, and ppl were drunk. Anyway, I go to clubs from time to time.

In my personal experience, it does not really matter if I add girls on FB, or if I ask for their numbers instead, or if I call them or if I just text. The ones who have medium to hight interest like me anyway. So the ones that have little interest like the one I wrote about in this thread can go to hell.

Many ppl here are too extreme following rules like a damn robot. All the 'always' and 'never' rules I read here are often stupid, it depends on the situation, on the girl and on her interest level.
Also its funny how you criticise my failed experiences, because as you should know, when you try to pick up many girls, the majority of them will not reciprocate; "its a numbers game".
Guys here normally just write about girls that give them mixed signals, or show little to zero interest. This is why they become obsessed.

This girl is showing very little interest, so there is not much I can do. SHE WAS THE ONE that asked me if I was gonna be at that salsa club so she could see me, but in the end she did not show up and she did not even text to say that she was not coming = zero interest.

You should not blame yourselves for every failure because more often than not, it is just the girl that is not interested, and there's nothing you can do about it. It does not matter wheter you texted her three times, or four times, if you called instead of text...or if you were not as funny as you think you should have...etc

P.S.
I pick up girls in other places from time to time as well, but I do not go to approach girls as if it was my main mission in life.

 

[YAboi]

Hi.

I've met different chicks in salsa clubs whom I banged. Some of them go ok, others don't.

Yes, I feel comfortable in the salsa scene, because 1 I dance good, 2 I know many people there, and 3 there are new girls coming every weekend.
I do not understand why I should return to bars and clubs where I did not stand out, I felt awkward, and ppl were drunk. Anyway, I go to clubs from time to time.

In my personal experience, it does not really matter if I add girls on FB, or if I ask for their numbers instead, or if I call them or if I just text. The ones who have medium to hight interest like me anyway. So the ones that have little interest like the one I wrote about in this thread can go to hell.

Many ppl here are too extreme following rules like a damn robot. All the 'always' and 'never' rules I read here are often stupid, it depends on the situation, on the girl and on her interest level.
Also its funny how you criticise my failed experiences, because as you should know, when you try to pick up many girls, the majority of them will not reciprocate; "its a numbers game".
Guys here normally just write about girls that give them mixed signals, or show little to zero interest. This is why they become obsessed.

This girl is showing very little interest, so there is not much I can do. SHE WAS THE ONE that asked me if I was gonna be at that salsa club so she could see me, but in the end she did not show up and she did not even text to say that she was not coming = zero interest.

You should not blame yourselves for every failure because more often than not, it is just the girl that is not interested, and there's nothing you can do about it. It does not matter wheter you texted her three times, or four times, if you called instead of text...or if you were not as funny as you think you should have...etc

P.S.
I pick up girls in other places from time to time as well, but I do not go to approach girls as if it was my main mission in life.

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