"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Demonicale

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Ok i'm not going to bore you with all the crappy details, just wanted to know what you guy's do in this situation.

A girl has been really hot with me (met off POF) anyhow,we were suppose to meet thursday but i said can we make it a friday night as no work and it's better.

She text says yeah no problem as i'm nakered and it'll be much better and i'll txt you later once i wake up.

that txt was yesterday morning at 10am .. it's now friday (the night were suppose to meet) and still no txt ... that's well over 24 hours and i've not text her cause i'm pissed at her and can't be assed.

Would you guys just ignore her completly now?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You're thinking about this way too much. Text her, I don't need to explain to you why.
 

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Is her number the only one in your phone??

I'm just not quite sure why you care so much...
 

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Why text her when she's kinda being an ass not txting me? ... and what if it is? ... i'm sure not every guy has like 10 numbers of random women he can hook up with?.
 

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Demonicale said:
Why text her when she's kinda being an ass not txting me? ... and what if it is? ... i'm sure not every guy has like 10 numbers of random women he can hook up with?.
Wait.

So you asked her to change the date from Thurs to Fri.

She responded "Yeah no problem."

So, what else are you expecting exactly? She answered your question about moving the date. Did you want a lullaby too?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Demonicale said:
Why text her when she's kinda being an ass not txting me? ... and what if it is? ... i'm sure not every guy has like 10 numbers of random women he can hook up with?.
I knew I had to get into detail.

First off this is a girl off of POF - online dating site where over 200 men can email her, you are just 1 of those 200. Understand that you getting mad is not going to change the fact that she is currently texting 200 men. (hypothetically speaking of course). Unless you spank that ass in the next 1 - 3 days, she wont take her POF profile off, unless there is high interest already established and in your situation, there isn't.

I bet you've been thinking about if she's going to text you all day.

So your initial question why should you text her. You shouldn't if you care so much if she's going to text you. But you should because you don't care, and you do whatever you want.
 

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Iceberg said:
Wait.

So you asked her to change the date from Thurs to Fri.

She responded "Yeah no problem."

So, what else are you expecting exactly? She answered your question about moving the date. Did you want a lullaby too?
No need to say it like that, i expected her to txt me when she woke up like she said she would ...
 

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exile663dfx said:
I knew I had to get into detail.

First off this is a girl off of POF - online dating site where over 200 men can email her, you are just 1 of those 200. Understand that you getting mad is not going to change the fact that she is currently texting 200 men. (hypothetically speaking of course). Unless you spank that ass in the next 1 - 3 days, she wont take her POF profile off, unless there is high interest already established and in your situation, there isn't.

I bet you've been thinking about if she's going to text you all day.

So your initial question why should you text her. You shouldn't if you care so much if she's going to text you. But you should because you don't care, and you do whatever you want.

yeah ok i guess, i'll just not txt and leave it at that ... just really pisses me off when someone is really into you txting all the time then suddenly nothing. sigh .. it's all good lol, just annoys me lol.
 

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Demonicale said:
Expected her to txt me when she woke up like she said she would ...
Exactly. You can't expect anybody to do anything just because you want them to.
 

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Demonicale said:
No need to say it like that, i expected her to txt me when she woke up like she said she would ...
Text you about what?

You asked to move your date from Thurs to Friday. You got what you wanted. What else is there?

Did you really want to sit around texting with some girl all morning? This is really weird.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't see the big deal. Some people are way too defensive and in this case you are acting defensive about not wanting to seem too keen (or maybe just stubborn) and maybe she's being overly defensive because you rearranged the date.

Personally I'd have text earlier in the day "We still on for tonight? How does 8pm sound? x"

Worst she can do is ignore you or reject you, in which case you know it's a lost cause and you move on.

I was in this same situation last week, except I had to postpone our date for a whole week. I hadn't heard from her for a few days leading upto the date so dropped her a text the day before just to confirm we were still on. She responded positively and we made our plans to meet up. We had a great date and I'm seeing her again in a few days.
 

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Demonicale said:
Why text her when she's kinda being an ass not txting me? ... and what if it is? ... i'm sure not every guy has like 10 numbers of random women he can hook up with?.

Yeah!!! Don't go out with her because she's not glued to her phone all day texiting you!!! That'll show her!
 

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You guys are harsh. :trouble:
 

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exile663dfx said:
You guys are harsh. :trouble:
Well, you stay on the forum giving advice for a while. This kinda question becomes old REAL fast.
 

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surely it's possible that (given that you guys haven't even met yet, so you might not be the biggest thing in her life!) she may have been busy at work or something and forgotten, her mum may have asked her to help her out for the day, she may have gone to her friends etc etc there are probably a million reasons why she may have not text you 'as soon as she woke up'. She sounds interested in getting together - don't blow it before it even gets going! I'd text her and enjoy your night together!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

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