hot and cold! need help

[hugesock]

ok im a newbie to this forum and i need some real advice

i met this girl online
at first it was hot and heavy with sex
then she began having me around her kid and her mom
she even visited me in the hospital

then suddenly she started pulling we have to be friends first
she still saw me for dates
even brought out her son
no more then light brushing up to her

ive tried telling her she means alot ans i want her part of my future
but this has only driven her away
in fact the last convo i had with her
i could hear the stress in her voice and i totally backed off
agreed to wait for her to text me
she emphazied friends
but it just doesnt feel that way to me

it feels like shes just slowed down everything
but were still dating just no sex

im confused
i kmow she has alpt going on
shes broke with her son stressed


is this going anywhere?
will she message me?

i know i pushed her too much

any advice with hot and cold

how do i regain status in this relationship
besides just leaving her alone

what should i do
why is she being like this

will she come around with some space?

i really care about her and her son
ive connected with both

im shocked shes decided to go so slow now and wondering if i did something wrong

 

[pinkfl]

She is always going to have her son as a priority. Meaning, if she is a good mother, she wants a good father figure for her son. As she has gotten to know you, she has concluded that you may not be best for him. I do not believe in having sex with someone and then withholding it. Once that door is opened, it should not be closed.

My conclusion is that she is stupid and also being misleading.

I would cut it off and let her initiate in the future.

 

[nismo-4]

When you start getting mixed signals, she's got little to no interest. Most likely she's in another castle.

Go ghost on her and spin more plates. Judge's orders.

Case closed.