"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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horrible talker ! girls problem major

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sportf190

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fellows listen i have a problem talking to girls im not a bad lookin guy maybe above average like a 6 or 7 but i can't seem to talk to them right... for example ill talk to them on the phone be like hey how wwas ur day and say it like 10 times b/c i cant htink of anythin else to say... also i will stutter when talking to like hot girls who im not "comfortable" around and it gets annoying b/c i know its aturn off... what ways can i take to improve my talking with things to say.. i know i should say things like how are you doin and all taht but like it gets old and im bad at like saying it.i may sound to soft and not say it loud enough or say it to fast its just annoyingggggggg
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Morphiex

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hmm first off ,cant talk about anything ???

there are millions of things u can talk about , movies games , the frikking sun and moon , its just talking , ask her what she likes and talk about that , second off girls like to talk , so u dont really have to talk that much , just make some small coments when they finally stop yapping....

second of all if u arent good at something how do you get better at it ????

u try and try and TRY again till ur good enough, u cant expect to be born naturally good at everything , just go out and talk to as many people as u meet , i mean everyone , every chance u get try gettting a small convo inn there , u dont have to try to pick them up or anything ur just having a friendly chat.....

third dont always go how are u doing , girls hear that all the time espeacially hot chick , with these girls u want them to think of u as something special not the ordinary guys that they talk to , instead f talking about what they want u should sometimes talk about what u want , make them listen and **** .....

fourth i know that 1 and 3 is kinda contredicting eachother but they both apply , u have to understand there is no quick fix , u should read the posts here , like the bible and stuff then apply it to your life not do it just the way it says cuz that usually doesnt work....

anyway just go and talk to as many people u can have small friendly chats with people and ull start to control the way u talk after some time..... hope it helps ....
 

pimpfromdayone

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OK, I will try to keep it simple for you. First of all, you should try to talk about her more. When talking to women, most guys will dominate the conversation talking only about themselves, and that is horrible. If she asks you a question, answer it, but then redirect the conversation to her. Ask about her. This shows that you are interested in her life and you care enough to talk about her...

A woman will often give you cues as to what she wants to talk about. For instance, if you make small talk about the weather and she mentions how much better it was back in Florida, you can then talk to her a little bit about that. The key to a good conversation is to LEAD (obviously most girls won't lead it for you), but let her do most of the talking. If you're doing well, she'll be doing a lot of talking. If there are a lot of awkward silences, you need more practice. It is your job to direct the convo and pick what to talk about, but let her do most of the talking if possible. Of course, during all this, you should tease her, make her laugh, and when the topic gets kinda played out, think of something else to say that can open up a new convo. It can be challenging if you know absolutely nothing about her, as is the case with me usually, haha, but a little bit of coc-ky funny and some talking about her will go a long way. After all, what is the point of the call if you don't want to get to know each other a little?

What you don't want to do is bore her, which is where most guys fail. This will lead to a fast death. She likes to talk about herself a lot, so you can use that a lot of the time. As I already say, tease her, playfully make fun of her, and above all else, make her laugh. If you talk to her like a friend, you will become her friend. She already has PLENTY of girlfriends to talk to all day on her cell phone, but you have to show her that you're a man, and talk like one. That said, don't come on too strong either, which will lead to an equally fast death. You simply give her an opportunity to meet up with you somewhere, nothing more. You don't have to make a "date" on the first call, but you need to meet her asap because telephone tag can only last so long.

Let's see, what else..... oh yeah, talk slowly but not like you're high or something, just calmly and in a relaxed manner. Slow yourself down a little bit and it should help some with the nervousness. Don't talk too softly. Talk with authority. You made the call, you're confident, and you are completely at ease with the situation. Hope I helped you some.
 

johnmich

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I cant stress this enough. Please use grammar as it is so much better to read than one gigantic sentence.
Also, stop saying like before each part.
 
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sportf190

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alrihgt guys thanks.. im am not a shy guy at all im always talking to people, it's just around girls i seem to have that problem and it is really annoying
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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