horrible luck with women!

[ink_wizard]

Yes thats right, title says it all!!
Im 22 years old and have never had a gf...ive had hook ups, sex but can never get a girl to committ to me no matter how hard i try, how nice i am, how great i make them feel and no matter how attractive i am, they just will not enter relationships with me!

i for the life of me cannot understand why this is? I can go on dates with them and things can go really well and they'll be totally into me, then a week or so later they'll drop me for better offers, or come back with lines such as "your amazing and everything and i like you alot i just dont know if im ready to start dating" and then i'll find out later that they've either found someone else/ex or have comittment issues..

Yet the girls who want more from me are usually the ones im not attracted to/have no interest in =/

I dont know what to do anymore, is anyone else in the same boat or can give me an idea on where im going wrong? replies would be apreciated

 

[terran2k]

treat the girls that you are interested in the same way you treat the girls you're not interested in.

what are you doing in the week or so after your first date for them to come back and say they dont wanna date? txt alot? call alot? gotta be something

 

[everywomanshero]

Jesus, are you sure you're male? How do I get a girl to commit LOL

Tell ya what, why don't you focus on just having a good time with them and when you can show them a good time, THEY WILL BE BUGGING YOU FOR COMMITMENT LIKE CRAZY AND ANNOYING you.

 

[ink_wizard]

i actually dont text or call them alot, i wait for them to contact me and chase me, which they will untill they all of a sudden lose interest and find someone else or their ex comes back in their lives...and then i get the boot.

It just feels like im never good enough no matter how great of a person i am. And im tired of always having the ones i dont want the only ones after me.

 

[JerryFl08]

treat the girls that you are interested in the same way you treat the girls you're not interested in.

what are you doing in the week or so after your first date for them to come back and say they dont wanna date? txt alot? call alot? gotta be something

Do this!

Tell ya what, why don't you focus on just having a good time with them and when you can show them a good time, THEY WILL BE BUGGING YOU FOR COMMITMENT LIKE CRAZY AND ANNOYING you.

And especially this!

 

[SandHawk]

Yes thats right, title says it all!!
Im 22 years old and have never had a gf...ive had hook ups, sex but can never get a girl to committ to me no matter how hard i try, how nice i am, how great i make them feel and no matter how attractive i am, they just will not enter relationships with me!

I highlighted what you're doing wrong. You see, you are trying too hard. Girls have a radar for clingy and needy guys. The harder you try, you harder to try to get the girl to like you, the faster they run away.

Go read the Book of Pook, it goes into this very well. Lose the whole 'I need a girlfriend' attitude, and be content with your life. See your life is being a 100%, and a girl can only be the extra bit you don't need. Like having cake with whipped cream, and the girl being a cherry on top of it. The cake is already awesome to eat, but the cherry can mix in some extra.

 

[Scion]

who cares if a girl doesn't want to commit, at least your still getting laid. Count your blessings, I'd bet that most guys here aren't even that lucky.

 

[nismo-4]

who cares if a girl doesn't want to commit, at least your still getting laid. Count your blessings, I'd bet that most guys here aren't even that lucky.

You read my damn mind! And listen to JerryFl08! Women are the ones who beg for committment.

 

[SandHawk]

who cares if a girl doesn't want to commit, at least your still getting laid. Count your blessings, I'd bet that most guys here aren't even that lucky.

While I agree on that point, there is still a moment in time that most of us want to settle down with a steady girl. Most people enjoy messing around with various people for a period in their life, and the last thing they want is commitment. However, at some point, they do crave for a steady relationship, and if that's what he is after, then it's not a blessing but a curse.

What most of us see as a blessing, is a curse for this guy. Arguing that he should be happy because he's so lucky that he only bangs a girl once or twice doesn't make sense.

Everyone DJs with a different motivation. I DJ'ed for a long time with the goal to bang as many chicks as possible, but I'm slowly progressing toward finding a girl that suits my sexual and mental needs and get into an LTR with her. He might be done with messing with loads of girls, and wants just that.

 

[Scion]

While I agree on that point, there is still a moment in time that most of us want to settle down with a steady girl. Most people enjoy messing around with various people for a period in their life, and the last thing they want is commitment. However, at some point, they do crave for a steady relationship, and if that's what he is after, then it's not a blessing but a curse.

What most of us see as a blessing, is a curse for this guy. Arguing that he should be happy because he's so lucky that he only bangs a girl once or twice doesn't make sense.

Everyone DJs with a different motivation. I DJ'ed for a long time with the goal to bang as many chicks as possible, but I'm slowly progressing toward finding a girl that suits my sexual and mental needs and get into an LTR with her. He might be done with messing with loads of girls, and wants just that.

well considering the fact that lots of guys never get laid I don't feel sorry for the guys that get laid but whine about not having a relationship. I agree that a relationship would be nice (I'd actually like to try one myself, with the right girl that is) but you could always be worse off.

 

[ink_wizard]

i do understand where you guys are coming from and believe me yes i am grateful for getting laid even if it was only with a couple of girls and im also greatful for hooking up with the others cos i know theres guys out there that dont get neither....
However it would be nice also to find a decent girl to settle down with, and experience what other couples do, to just be able to call someone mine for once instead of just saying "oh yeah we hooked up a couple of times"
So its easy for you blokes that say "ohh just go out and have fun and get laid" lol well i do but it would just be nice to having something deeper with a girl then just sex and fun.....And the only girls that want something more from me are the ones im never interested in and its frustrating =/

And to the others saying that i try too hard....well i dont really come off as desperate or clingy to them...i spark some interest, get them to chase me and contact me first the whole time, whilst trying to build more of an attraction with them and usually as i said it will go fine and they'll be keen on me but its like out of nowhere they'll drop me like a brick with pathetic excuses like "i dont know if i want to date" or "i just have too many issues going on in my life for a bf sorry" and then i later find out that they found other people or got back with their ex's =/ and its happened so much to me lately.....

The age bracket for these girls are between 17-22 and dont say young girls dont committ cos i know heaps of them now that are in stable relationships!!

 

[Scion]

i do understand where you guys are coming from and believe me yes i am grateful for getting laid even if it was only with a couple of girls and im also greatful for hooking up with the others cos i know theres guys out there that dont get neither....
However it would be nice also to find a decent girl to settle down with, and experience what other couples do, to just be able to call someone mine for once instead of just saying "oh yeah we hooked up a couple of times"
So its easy for you blokes that say "ohh just go out and have fun and get laid" lol well i do but it would just be nice to having something deeper with a girl then just sex and fun.....And the only girls that want something more from me are the ones im never interested in and its frustrating =/

And to the others saying that i try too hard....well i dont really come off as desperate or clingy to them...i spark some interest, get them to chase me and contact me first the whole time, whilst trying to build more of an attraction with them and usually as i said it will go fine and they'll be keen on me but its like out of nowhere they'll drop me like a brick with pathetic excuses like "i dont know if i want to date" or "i just have too many issues going on in my life for a bf sorry" and then i later find out that they found other people or got back with their ex's =/ and its happened so much to me lately.....

The age bracket for these girls are between 17-22 and dont say young girls dont committ cos i know heaps of them now that are in stable relationships!!

young girls aren't really ready to commit. Sure, you may know some, but I can guarantee that at some point they'll dump their bf in order to date around. Plus, for whatever reason they don't want to be with a guy that wants a relationship, they want a guy they have to trick/force into a relationship.

I've had tons of girls that have got into a relationship suddenly too, and I agree that it sucks. But stop worrying about it so much. Live your life, and be content with being alone. I can guarantee that eventually you'll meet a girl you want who also wants you.

 

[DonGorgon]

you are dating hos... so be glad that they dont wana be with you cause you dont want a ho girl friends... Oh and you are trying to hard... young hos want you more when they feel like you dont really care about them...

Just make sure you F them...

 

[mrRuckus]

young girls aren't really ready to commit. Sure, you may know some, but I can guarantee that at some point they'll dump their bf in order to date around.

Yup, this happened to me. Her friend "told" her that she had to do this. LIke it's some sort of rule. Love a guy, be into a guy, but since you're "not old enough yet," you, by law, have to fvck it up.

That's why she's 6 years older and fat now. A few months ago I got an email from her bluntly asking if there was any possibility of us getting back together. I talked to her for a while just to get all the dirt and then told her she's too fat. "I can't stop thinking about you all this time. I was so happy with you. I didn't know what I had." Boohooohoooohooo...

I guess her whole system of whoring around for a few years really worked out as her looks fade and her waistline expands. If she stuck around with me, i'd have her skinny and sexy right now, as I set the example.

She's miserable right now.

Sucker.