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Hormones

jhonny9546

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A friend of mine told me that she feels really strange when her hormones are running wild, because of her menstrual cycle or certain moments in life.
She said that whenever her hormones were at their peak, she always found herself attracted to another guy, whereas when things went back to normal, she was fine with her current boyfriend.

So I asked her, “Do you think your hormones are trying to tell you that your feelings for this other guy are genuine?"
She replied, “I don’t know, I really can’t say.”

I’m sure many of you have found yourselves in situations with women who seemed to desire you, but they were actually on a "wild" hormone trip.
Do you think those feelings are just their emotions, but amplified (so still real, just more intense)?
Or do you think it’s simply a way for them to try to get someone "better" than their current partner?
(even tho I’ve also heard some women say that when their hormones peak, they find their partner even more sexually attractive)
 

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on and around ovulation if not on birth control; will look to satisfy animal attraction. that comes in several different ways, but its often the same few men that provide for many women. there is a way to turn that switch on. this is the most enjoyable situation if your the guy getting.

during menstruations and many of the other days will be looking for security/safety/provider. this is the situation many men find themselves in and try to like it.
 

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To go into more detail, there are some single women I hang out with in the same social circle. Let’s say we go out together as a group about four times a month, and on one of those occasions, one of these women is clearly "in heat."
She’ll come close, start flirting, touching you, etc.
It’s obvious she’s super turned on and wants sex with you.


That said, after that week, she goes back to this "hot and cold" phase, that familiar feeling we all know when a woman isn’t 100% into you (in this scenario, you’ve never slept together).
So the real question is: when a woman shows that kind of interest while she’s "in heat," is that genuine attraction? Or is the real, deeper interest the kind she shows when she wants you even during her period, when sex is off the table?


ps: In my specific experience, just to cite another example, there was a girl in our group who ended up dating a guy from the same social circle (he was a "beta provider 100%"). We all used to hang out together, and there were times, exactly like I described above, when she would get much more intimate with me than usual. She’d touch me, flirt, act really into me. Then a week later, you could see she with him and treat me like I didn’t exist, and she was happy.
We had this circle for 3 years, and this has been like this all the time.
 

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I had a female friend look down at my crotch one day and then look up and bite her lower lip. Then she felt embarrassed and started joking about something unrelated.

She was never like that. We were 100% platonic, and she had a boyfriend. She wasn’t even attracted to me.

I knew her very well for years. We would talk openly about anything, so she would mention her period sometimes.

Anyway, I did some quick math and later realized she was mid-cycle (near ovulation) when she stared at my D lol.

So it was definitely just a temporary hormonal thing, not “I’m going to dump my boyfriend and date Mike.”
 

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One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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what you want is a woman that comes to you in both times. the only way to know that is to be aware of it and pay attention. your best chance is to investigate the ones that come on to you when in heat and only then see if you are what they want when not hungry for a baby. most men go the other way and present resources and satisfy the not in heat woman. if your not in tune, she is looking at another when that time comes around. not her fault, its instinct, that she does not control.

just pick from the ones that come to you when they are on. there are some women that no matter what you do you can not get there. that's when you move on.

this is 100 percent rule. every woman with a cycle, runs this way.
 

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just pick from the ones that come to you when they are on.
Got it. Well said @plumber

In my case, women only approach me when they're in heat.
Like @Mike32ct e says, I’ve seen them check me out or do things that clearly say, “I’m all yours.”


So are you saying that if they desire other men when they’re turned on, it means they don’t actually desire their partner? I know many people stay in relationships just to avoid being alone. Is that one way to tell when a couple is in that kind of situation?
 

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Hormones can create havoc at times with women especially during birth and menopause.

I’m certain my ex wife going through menopause was a factor (not the main or only one) behind her ‘I’m unhappy, it’s all your fault and I want a divorce’ attitude.

Ovulation and hormone replacement therapy can also influence a woman’s thinking at times. Many women tend to be driven by their emotions over logic if the timing is right. All one night stands and same day lays need a woman and most women aren’t as promiscuous as men.
 
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